Well, our situation has become -=- ahhh -=- slightly less fluid than it was an hour or two ago.
The girls (I have 5 sis-in-laws) got together and decided that there is no reason (since mom is completely unresponsive, etc.) that all she wanted was to be cremated and buried at the feet of her father's grave Tari and I will handle that last piece and we're not meeting anywhere etc.
And since the situation has congealed to -=- ahhhh -=- chilled blackstrap molasses, that is where we are sitting. Though if that changes we'll let y'all know. (And, yeah, I got a bag packed...like moving the crash cart to a specific ICU bed to scare away evil spirits...)