PRYR RQST I lost the love of my life..........

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PghPanther
I too would add my condolences in the loss of your beloved. I can also share in your pain with regard to ALS, it truly is a horrible disease. I lost my best friend, my mentor, the man who took me and my brother in when my bio dad left. The man who raised me to be the man I am today. Some would say he is my Stepfather, but I call him DAD. I have tears in my eyes now thinking of him. Take care my friend and may the Lord wrap you in his wonderful arms and comfort you during this most difficult time.

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vector7

Veteran Member
if you do have someone in your life that is special make sure you let them know that every day in some way or some manner..............forgive and forget with any issues in a sincere and as prompt manner as possible..........and Good Lord don't take any of it for granted............right now I'd give a kingdom's ransom just to look into Lori's eyes and hear her voice one more time.............
This is exactly how I felt. I would have given anything to save and spend a few more moments with her.

As soon as my one and only wife was diagnosed with cancer I began prayer and fasting as she need a miracle to survive the death sentence.

I lost all of myself and reached out to the Lord and sought Him with all I had. He told me he was taking her, I begged for her life and requested she be spared and take mine.

His will is sovereign. I was upset with Him and repented shortly after.

After the funeral I felt guilty I didn't do more with the precious little time we had together. I was chasing a career and was spending time on distracting things. Especially when looking back never knowing when your last day is, it's always approaching you and others upon this earth.

I should have focused on trying to do something together each day giving more of myself away to my soulmate making the most out of every moment we had to share together.

For the first year to year and a half it was tough. The first 90 was very hard. I was alone and had to move near family, sometimes stay with them.

You just want to grieve and deal with the pain alone. But you are vulnerable and need to be around the people that love you the most to give you support while you are adjusting through this difficult time.

The Lord has a plan for you to do more things in the future.

Just focus on getting through one day at a time brother.

God bless you with His Peace that passes all understanding to allow you to rest and fill your heart with His Joy.
 
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Countrymouse

Country exile in the city
Some of you may know or recall me talking about my girl friend of 14 years Lori..............who developed ALS after about 9 years into our relationship.

In the recent months it has progressed quickly and today 7-31-20 she passed away in the nursing home she was at...........I saw her the week before and two days ago by special permission of the home.

We met in 2006 when I was 52 and she was 48.......and instantly knew we should be together........it took many years for us to work out our financial situations to the point where we could get married and just about that time is when the ALS appeared as a slight limp in her walk......at that point I dedicated the rest of her remaining days to helping as much as a could until she had to go to a nursing home.........she was never bitter........always wonderful, caring and loving to me and everyone she met until the end.

She once told me that if she could live one year over again it would be the first year we met, I said even over the years of having children?..............she said yes I meant that much to her...........

The last time I saw her she would still light up at my voice and was still aware of our life and love.....My final words to her were....."When I think about you it makes me glad I was born"...........she smiled and mumbled "wonderful" and then closed her eyes and we said our final goodbye that way........

......as sweet and decent of a person as she was stunningly beautiful.......... she will be cremated and her children and I will receive some of those ashes.........I will also get a lock of her hair she wanted me to have...........and that will go with me to my grave someday with some other artifacts I have from her.

So now the day I dreaded and feared has come and she's gone............and I'm heart broken beyond belief right now and will miss her immensely for the rest of my life.

Thank you for your time everyone.........and may the rest of your days be many and joyous with the time you have left on Earth.
So deeply sorry for your loss, PghPanther. May the Father enfold you in His arms and surround you with His love and comfort.
 

PghPanther

Veteran Member
Thank you again for the responses they are heartfelt and important to me............

............a word to those of you who have loved ones that you know will face a certain death in time due to an illness.

Don't assume you will be prepared because you have time to prepare for that loss....

.......treat them everyday during their struggle with a priority of love as if you may lose them tomorrow......................and when the time does come you won't be prepared no matter what...........it will hit you like a ton of bricks as if it was a a sudden accidental death.

Realize that is the reality of being human..........others have told me this over the past 12 hours and I wanted to share it with those that may be going through this now or in the future.
 

Chance

Veteran Member
PghPanther,
So sorry you have been separated from your most dear love...for now. I pray for peace and comfort for you. One hand, one heart, not even death can part...
 

Seeker22

Veteran Member
I had a Love like that. I was lucky enough that the last words we said to each other were, "I love you." Love is a verb. All my Prayers for you, my mailbox is always open.
I talk to my DH like he is still here so he won't be lonely or think I have forgotten.
 

Housecarl

On TB every waking moment
My prayers to you and her children. May she rest in peace.

Please make sure to take care of yourself in body and soul. I've been where you are and it is all too easy to not take care of yourself.
 

Grounded Idealist

Do not argue with me. You will not win.
Thank you again for the responses they are heartfelt and important to me............

............a word to those of you who have loved ones that you know will face a certain death in time due to an illness.

Don't assume you will be prepared because you have time to prepare for that loss....

.......treat them everyday during their struggle with a priority of love as if you may lose them tomorrow......................and when the time does come you won't be prepared no matter what...........it will hit you like a ton of bricks as if it was a a sudden accidental death.

Realize that is the reality of being human..........others have told me this over the past 12 hours and I wanted to share it with those that may be going through this now or in the future.
Thank you PghPanther for the update and words of wisdom.

I understand that you may take a break from the news and craziness for a while, however, please continue to let us know how you’re doing, if you need anything, etc. Just check in now and again when you feel so inclined, ya know, cuz we worry . . .
 

seraphima

Veteran Member
My sincere condolences for your great loss. After a few months, I found much help for the loss of my husband from attending Griefshare. Please keep it in mind as a possible help in your own good time.
 

yellowlabz

Veteran Member
I am so sorry (and also saddened by the other stories people have shared on this thread of losing their loved ones) -- I am sending my prayers. Think on the good and happy memories, instead of the health struggles.
 

stormie

Contributing Member
I'm so sorry. I pray The Lord comfort you during this awful time of missing your soul mate and one true love. This side of eternity isn't all there is. Hang on. You will see her again soon.
 

PghPanther

Veteran Member
Thank you again for the kind words of compassion and sympathy of the continued postings..........I have a photo tribute of my Lori to anyone that would like to see it..........I can't seem to attach it here but if you send me a personal email to PghPanther I can try to send it to you that way......
 

Raggedyman

Res ipsa loquitur
I am just now seeing this. ALS is an incredibly cruel disease. know that you are in our prayers. your words were beautifully written; by those - and by your actions - its easy to see how much you meant to each other. deeply committed and deeply loved one another . . . brief tho it may have been HERE - there are better places ahead for us all. unfortunately those are empty words to some - I know by the words you wrote, they will not be empty to you - nor would they have been to Lori - who for the rest of the days you linger here, will be the sun on your face and the gentle breeze at your back.

blessings my brother
RM
 

Pinecone

Veteran Member
Thank you again for the responses they are heartfelt and important to me............

............a word to those of you who have loved ones that you know will face a certain death in time due to an illness.

Don't assume you will be prepared because you have time to prepare for that loss....

.......treat them everyday during their struggle with a priority of love as if you may lose them tomorrow......................and when the time does come you won't be prepared no matter what...........it will hit you like a ton of bricks as if it was a a sudden accidental death.

Realize that is the reality of being human..........others have told me this over the past 12 hours and I wanted to share it with those that may be going through this now or in the future.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's wisdom hard learned and a valuable lesson for the rest of us.
 

homecanner1

Veteran Member
Very sad news. But know you made a difference in her life as her partner in spite of challenges she faced. In sickness and in health is not a promise made lightly. It could be she wanted to let go now before things get even more chaotic. Am so glad you got a last visit! Prayers on her passing and for you to find solace.
 
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