Plus one.Prayers sent.I grieve with you.
Plus one.Prayers sent.I grieve with you.
if you do have someone in your life that is special make sure you let them know that every day in some way or some manner..............forgive and forget with any issues in a sincere and as prompt manner as possible..........and Good Lord don't take any of it for granted............right now I'd give a kingdom's ransom just to look into Lori's eyes and hear her voice one more time.............
Some of you may know or recall me talking about my girl friend of 14 years Lori..............who developed ALS after about 9 years into our relationship.
In the recent months it has progressed quickly and today 7-31-20 she passed away in the nursing home she was at...........I saw her the week before and two days ago by special permission of the home.
We met in 2006 when I was 52 and she was 48.......and instantly knew we should be together........it took many years for us to work out our financial situations to the point where we could get married and just about that time is when the ALS appeared as a slight limp in her walk......at that point I dedicated the rest of her remaining days to helping as much as a could until she had to go to a nursing home.........she was never bitter........always wonderful, caring and loving to me and everyone she met until the end.
She once told me that if she could live one year over again it would be the first year we met, I said even over the years of having children?..............she said yes I meant that much to her...........
The last time I saw her she would still light up at my voice and was still aware of our life and love.....My final words to her were....."When I think about you it makes me glad I was born"...........she smiled and mumbled "wonderful" and then closed her eyes and we said our final goodbye that way........
......as sweet and decent of a person as she was stunningly beautiful.......... she will be cremated and her children and I will receive some of those ashes.........I will also get a lock of her hair she wanted me to have...........and that will go with me to my grave someday with some other artifacts I have from her.
So now the day I dreaded and feared has come and she's gone............and I'm heart broken beyond belief right now and will miss her immensely for the rest of my life.
Thank you for your time everyone.........and may the rest of your days be many and joyous with the time you have left on Earth.
Thank you PghPanther for the update and words of wisdom.Thank you again for the responses they are heartfelt and important to me............
............a word to those of you who have loved ones that you know will face a certain death in time due to an illness.
Don't assume you will be prepared because you have time to prepare for that loss....
.......treat them everyday during their struggle with a priority of love as if you may lose them tomorrow......................and when the time does come you won't be prepared no matter what...........it will hit you like a ton of bricks as if it was a a sudden accidental death.
Realize that is the reality of being human..........others have told me this over the past 12 hours and I wanted to share it with those that may be going through this now or in the future.
Thank you PghPanther for the update and words of wisdom.
I understand that you may take a break from the news and craziness for a while, however, please continue to let us know how you’re doing, if you need anything, etc. Just check in now and again when you feel so inclined, ya know, cuz we worry . . .
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's wisdom hard learned and a valuable lesson for the rest of us.Thank you again for the responses they are heartfelt and important to me............
............a word to those of you who have loved ones that you know will face a certain death in time due to an illness.
Don't assume you will be prepared because you have time to prepare for that loss....
.......treat them everyday during their struggle with a priority of love as if you may lose them tomorrow......................and when the time does come you won't be prepared no matter what...........it will hit you like a ton of bricks as if it was a a sudden accidental death.
Realize that is the reality of being human..........others have told me this over the past 12 hours and I wanted to share it with those that may be going through this now or in the future.