RACE Why your swipes (choices) on Hinge and OKCupid dating apps might be racist

MinnesotaSmith

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Prediction: forcing dating sites & apps into not letting customers screen for race won't be enough. Next will be affirmative action for underappreciated groups, by overrepresenting them in search results. After that, people being assigned partners (and spouses!) will come, with whites NEVER being matched up with another white (unless they're homos, and not certain then). Oh, and don't be surprised if they match you up with a transexual (post- or pre-op, who knows what you'll get). :kk1:

Why your swipes on Hinge and OKCupid might be racist

By Asia Grace
February 19, 2021



Why your swipes on Hinge and OKCupid might be racist

"The authors of a new book are arguing for race-blind dating apps — and the removal of filters for race and ethnicity.
Finding love, they say, isn’t so black-and-white.

In a new book, “The Dating Divide: Race and Desire in the Era of Online Romance,” sociologists Jennifer Lundquist, Celeste Vaughan Curington and Ken Hou-Lin show how online dating sites exacerbate racial divisions.
They found that race-related “preference” filters on digital dating platforms help foster racist attitudes — especially toward black women. “Filtering out people based on race is a normal practice on dating apps,” Lundquist told The Post. “The idea of having racial preferences is unacceptable and illegal in any other arena,” she added. “But it’s literally built into the structure of these dating apps.”

A 2014 study about dating preferences along racial lines on OKCupid came to a similar conclusion: Black women had a hard time matching on dating apps, as did black and Asian men.
(The 2014 study also found that preferring to date within one’s race was fairly common. For instance, black women preferred to date black men at a rate surpassed only by Asian women’s preference for Asian men.)

For their book, Lundquist and her co-writers analyzed large-scale behavioral data from one of the leading dating sites in America. The authors declined to publicly reveal which digital dating platform they used for their research per a data-share agreement with the website.
They also conducted over 75 in-depth interviews with daters of diverse racial backgrounds and sexual identities.

The authors found that racial filtering on mating forums exposed black women to more exclusion and rejection than white, Latina and Asian female daters. Black women were the most likely to be excluded from searches, as well as the most likely recipients of offensive messages.
The research trio found that discrimination is laced into the algorithms of mainstream dating apps and websites.

“[It’s] this idea that it’s OK to say, ‘I prefer this race of people, and I don’t like this race of people for my romantic interest,’” Curington explained to The Post.
Hinge, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish and Match.com offer race and ethnicity filters, while Tinder and Bumble do not.

While plenty of people have “a type” when it comes to dating, the researchers found that filtering for race also let “people feel free to express their biases and racial misogyny towards women of color in a way they typically wouldn’t in a face-to-face encounter,” Lundquist said.

So, how did users go from being ignored to harassed? One possible explanation: When the average dating-app user doesn’t see black women because of the filters they’ve set, you end up with a higher percentage of users seeking black women as a “fetish.”

For Nicole, a 39-year-old Afro Caribbean single mother from Brooklyn, receiving overly sexual overtures from non-black men on apps has become an unwelcome norm.
“Right off the bat these guys are approaching me with, ‘Hey, sexy chocolate,’ or ‘I love your beautiful black body. Can you twerk?,’” the registered nurse told The Post.
Nicole and other black daters who’ve endured racist attitudes while online dating declined to share their full names with The Post for privacy reasons.

“I’m on these apps hoping to find a meaningful relationship and these guys are treating me like a sex object before even extending a proper ‘Hello,’” the Brooklyn resident added.
The authors found that black women on matchmaking platforms must frequently contend with racist stereotypes such as the sexually insatiable “Jezebel,” which has roots in slavery, and the “angry black woman” — a belief that black women are innately unruly and ill-tempered.

“We talked to a number of educated black women who were thriving in their careers and looking for comparable partners,” Curington told The Post. “But there’s a disconnect between who they are in real life versus the Jezebel stereotype they’re being subjected to online.”
“I’m on these apps hoping to find a meaningful relationship and these guys are treating me like a sex object before even extending a proper ‘Hello.’”
Nicole
Mish, a black executive assistant to C-suite business administrators, told The Post that her digital quest for companionship reaped a paltry handful of bad love connections.
“I’m very turned off by dating sites now,” the 53-year-old Bronx native insisted. “They make me feel uneasy. Like I’m not being seen as the beautiful queen I am.”

She recalls one relationship with a Hispanic man that quickly turned sour.
“When we first met, he made a point of telling me how much he loved black women,” Mish told The Post.
He was sexually aggressive during their first in-person meet-up last year. After finally engaging in consensual sex, he ghosted her.
She later discovered he had a sordid history of fetishizing black women for his personal pleasures, then dumping them once he’d had his fun.

“He targets black women because we’re seen as sexual objects, nothing more,” she said, noting that they never spoke again.
Black gay men were also subjected to hypersexualized stereotypes, the authors found.
Clark, a 26-year-old urban contemporary choreographer, told The Post his brush with racism ultimately got him banned from a leading dating app.

“At first this white guy was sweet,” the Manhattan-based dancer explained. “But after a few messages, he asked for nude pictures to see ‘if the rumors about black guys are true.’”
Clark responded to the request with a flurry of expletives. The man reported Clark to the app administrators for “cyber bullying.” Clark’s dating profile was immediately deactivated.

“I couldn’t believe it when I saw my profile was gone. I had to create a whole new account,” Clark told The Post. “It was like I was being attacked twice, once by the white guy and once by the app.”
The authors suggest doing away with racial filters on apps in order to eliminate the perpetuation of racial stereotyping and discrimination.

However, they note that their objective isn’t to bash people for having a dating “type,” nor is it to browbeat folks into dating outside of their race.
“We’re not dumping on dating apps or people’s individual choices,” Curington told The Post. “We just want everyone to be aware of the long-standing societal issues being exacerbated on this platform.”"
 
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MinnesotaSmith

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See, that's the racist stereotype. In fact, ALL women are innately unruly and ill-tempered. It takes some hunting to find the gems. :)
An Asian iconoclastic psychologist finds that black women are at the bottom of everyone's preference list:


Here is the Psychology Today Article by Kanazawa…


Psychology Today" posted:
Why Are Black Women Less Physically Attractive Than Other Women?Why black women, but not black men?
Published on May 15, 2011 by Satoshi Kanazawa in The Scientific Fundamentalist

"There are marked race differences in physical attractiveness among women, but not among men. Why?

Add Health measures the physical attractiveness of its respondents both objectively and subjectively. At the end of each interview, the interviewer rates the physical attractiveness of the respondent objectively on the following five-point scale: 1 = very unattractive, 2 = unattractive, 3 = about average, 4 = attractive, 5 = very attractive. The physical attractiveness of each Add Health respondent is measured three times by three different interviewers over seven years.

From these three scores, I can compute the latent “physical attractiveness factor” by a statistical procedure called factor analysis. Factor analysis has the added advantage of eliminating all random measurement errors that are inherent in any scientific measurement. The latent physical attractiveness factor has a mean of 0 and a standard deviation of 1.

Recall that women on average are more physically attractive than men. So women of all races are on average more physically attractive than the “average” Add Health respondent, except for black women. As the following graph shows, black women are statistically no different from the “average” Add Health respondent, and far less attractive than white, Asian, and Native American women.
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In contrast, races do not differ in physical attractiveness among men, as the following graph shows. Men of all races are more or less equally less physically attractive than the “average” Add Health respondent.

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This sex difference in the race differences in physical attractiveness – where physical attractiveness varies significantly by race among women, but not among men – is replicated at each Add Health wave (except that the race differences among men are statistically significant, albeit substantively very small, in Wave III). In each wave, black women are significantly less physically attractive than women of other races.

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It is very interesting to note that, even though black women are objectively less physically attractive than other women, black women (and men) subjectively consider themselves to be far more physically attractive than others. In Wave III, Add Health asks its respondents to rate their own physical attractiveness subjectively on the following four-point scale: 1 = not at all, 2 = slightly, 3 = moderately, 4 = very. As you can see in the following graphs, both black women and black men rate themselves to be far more physically attractive than individuals of other races.

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What accounts for the markedly lower average level of physical attractiveness among black women? Black women are on average much heavier than nonblack women. The mean body-mass index (BMI) at Wave III is 28.5 among black women and 26.1 among nonblack women. (Black and nonblack men do not differ in BMI: 27.0 vs. 26.9.) However, this is not the reason black women are less physically attractive than nonblack women. Black women have lower average level of physical attractiveness net of BMI. Nor can the race difference in intelligence (and the positive association between intelligence and physical attractiveness) account for the race difference in physical attractiveness among women. Black women are still less physically attractive than nonblack women net of BMI and intelligence. Net of intelligence, black men are significantly more physically attractive than nonblack men.

There are many biological and genetic differences between the races. However, such race differences usually exist in equal measure for both men and women. For example, because they have existed much longer in human evolutionary history, Africans have more mutations in their genomes than other races. And the mutation loads significantly decrease physical attractiveness (because physical attractiveness is a measure of genetic and developmental health). But since both black women and black men have higher mutation loads, it cannot explain why only black women are less physically attractive, while black men are, if anything, more attractive.

The only thing I can think of that might potentially explain the lower average level of physical attractiveness among black women is testosterone. Africans on average have higher levels of testosterone than other races, and testosterone, being an androgen (male hormone), affects the physical attractiveness of men and women differently. Men with higher levels of testosterone have more masculine features and are therefore more physically attractive. In contrast, women with higher levels of testosterone also have more masculine features and are therefore less physically attractive. The race differences in the level of testosterone can therefore potentially explain why black women are less physically attractive than women of other races, while (net of intelligence) black men are more physically attractive than men of other races."
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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“The idea of having racial preferences is unacceptable and illegal in any other arena,” she added. “But it’s literally built into the structure of these dating apps.”
First, it’s only illegal in housing and employment. “Unacceptable” is in the eye of the snowflake.

Remember, Communists demand equality of outcomes, not equality of opportunity.
 

TidesofTruth

Veteran Member
I am a 56 year old married man. I am so happy I will never find myself in any need or a dating app or quite frankly ever in a "dating situation" ever again in my life. I have only kissed one woman and I married her. In three week it will be 38 years. If she were to die, I will never marry again. I have had the best. I never will need to satisfy that area and it would be unfair to anyone else to have to match up. I am a very satisfied man for now and forever.

That being said, there is absolutely no attraction to me, in a carnal sense, to any Black, Asian or Hispanic woman at all. Is that racist? Am I not allowed preferences? I find black women to be the most repulsive thing to me in the human race, however I also find myself feeling sympathy at the same time. To me they have the most inhumane existence of all the human existence in how they are treated, the baggage they are born into and the burden they bear throughout life. But that doesn't make me want a relationship either.

I would say most of it is Cultural but just what one's personal eye and heart perceives as beauty should be more sacred than any guarantees provided by government. You should not be forced into any retraining or brainwashing to change who you want to be. These things would not be reflected in my manner toward others in respect and dignity but that is all I owe anyone.
 
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PghPanther

Veteran Member
Next time you see what you think is very pretty black girl, stop and take all her facial features and put them on a pretty white girl and see what you get. If that doesn't do the trick put a banana in her fight hand. Lipstick on a pig comes to mind.
Mike
The majority of times when a Black women/girl is thought of being attractive to all males usually means they have White rather than Black features to the face.............and most of that comes from White ancestry somewhere in their background if they are Blacks in the US.

I mean a wide eye bridge and broad nose with large nostrils/nappy hair just doesn't seem to cut with most males.....

I can't think of too many people who find native Black African woman attractive at all...............
 

von Koehler

Veteran Member
The majority of times when a Black women/girl is thought of being attractive to all males usually means they have White rather than Black features to the face.............and most of that comes from White ancestry somewhere in their background if they are Blacks in the US.

I mean a wide eye bridge and broad nose with large nostrils/nappy hair just doesn't seem to cut with most males.....

I can't think of too many people who find native Black African woman attractive at all...............
Everyone knows a huge, overweight sheboon is a prized catch. Literally.

Many years ago, I was talking to a Negro co-worker and asked him why Negro men chased after White women instead of a perusing Negro women?

His reply surprised me.

Partly it was due to getting status points from other Negro men for scoring a White woman.

But the primary reason was that Negro women were very abusive, controlling and he summed it all up with a word which rhymes with "witches."

von Koehler
 

PghPanther

Veteran Member
Everyone knows a huge, overweight sheboon is a prized catch. Literally.

Many years ago, I was talking to a Negro co-worker and asked him why Negro men chased after White women instead of a perusing Negro women?

His reply surprised me.

Partly it was due to getting status points from other Negro men for scoring a White woman.

But the primary reason was that Negro women were very abusive, controlling and he summed it all up with a word which rhymes with "witches."

von Koehler
I've heard the same..................Black women are bossy and want you to spend mega bucks on them for all weaves, nails and bling.......there is truth to them saying, "Girls I'm large and I'm in charger!"

What I notice about big Black women is they sweat more than any other humans in the gym.............ugh....lol!

Some Black men also see having a White woman by their side as "sticking to the man" as well..........well cracker you had my ancestors as slaves but looks what I got now........your daughter!!!
 
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nwillitts

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An Asian iconoclastic psychologist finds that black women are at the bottom of everyone's preference list:


Here is the Psychology Today Article by Kanazawa…


Psychology Today" posted:
not even on my list,much less the bottom of it.
yuck.
 

Cardinal

Snark: a higher form of communication
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Everyone knows a huge, overweight sheboon is a prized catch. Literally.

Many years ago, I was talking to a Negro co-worker and asked him why Negro men chased after White women instead of a perusing Negro women?

His reply surprised me.

Partly it was due to getting status points from other Negro men for scoring a White woman.

But the primary reason was that Negro women were very abusive, controlling and he summed it all up with a word which rhymes with "witches."

von Koehler
From the Attractiveness study
above:

The only thing I can think of that might potentially explain the lower average level of physical attractiveness among black women is testosterone. Africans on average have higher levels of testosterone than other races, and testosterone, being an androgen (male hormone), affects the physical attractiveness of men and women differently. Men with higher levels of testosterone have more masculine features and are therefore more physically attractive. In contrast, women with higher levels of testosterone also have more masculine features and are therefore less physically attractive. The race differences in the level of testosterone can therefore potentially explain why black women are less physically attractive than women of other races, while (net of intelligence) black men are more physically attractive than men of other races.
 

hunybee

Veteran Member
this is just stupid. why stop at black and white? what about male and female? are people screening out the opposite sex? are they screening out blondes? brunettes? red heads?

what about eye color? what if the person only really likes blue eyes?

hmmmm....height? so short people need not apply?

what about the wedding tackle? does there need to be measurements for that? cup sizes?

this is just so stupid and insulting. so if someone does not find another attractive, then they are bad and they MUST be forced to like it? everyone in the world has preferences, including the people in the article. there is nothing wrong with having preferences. some are hard and fast and some are bendable. i may like one type of hair color, but that is not a hill i would die on. there are all sorts of things that i like to varying degrees, as well as all sorts of things i do not like.

i know not everyone is the same way as far as their thinking, but it has happened to me way more than once that i think a man is attractive....and then they open their mouth. they then become extremely ugly, no matter how aesthetically attractive they were. it very much depends on the crap they spew and their character. that does not mean that i don't find certain things attractive, though. i most certainly do.

there is a line between just being an a-hole, and liking what you like. i understand i may not be what everyone is looking for physically. that's ok! i am ok with that! there really is someone for everyone. in fact, there are many someones for everyone in regards looks. i have seen what i thought was the goofiest looking people, but they have plenty of suitors.


so all of that said, there is a whole other part of this crap. part of it is snowflake and part of it is cultural.


i really, really hate to say it......but there is a cultural stereotype about black women. there is. just like von koeler said:


"Many years ago, I was talking to a Negro co-worker and asked him why Negro men chased after White women instead of a perusing Negro women?

His reply surprised me.

Partly it was due to getting status points from other Negro men for scoring a White woman.

But the primary reason was that Negro women were very abusive, controlling and he summed it all up with a word which rhymes with "witches."


of course not every black woman is this way. but enough are that it is seen as a problem. a problem that is not wanted to be dealt with. this isn't a skin color thing. this is a cultural thing. if those women would not want a man to be this way, then why would they think a man would want their woman to be like that?


the snowflake part? that would be the biggest part of the article. it isn't about the women being black and being fetishized for it. that does, of course, happen. but that is not really the issue. they don't like being thought of as a sexual object.


“I’m on these apps hoping to find a meaningful relationship and these guys are treating me like a sex object before even extending a proper ‘Hello.’”
Nicole

well, sweet cheeks, i don't like it either. that doesn't stop it from happening. there is a section of the male population that just does it. you can't help it. you can't stop it. they best things to do is avoid it when possible, and to toughen up when it is not possible to avoid. clearly, there is a line a behavior that is unacceptable. i think we all know what that is.

but upset because you are viewed as a sexual object.....let's not look at our own behavior though...right?

“When we first met, he made a point of telling me how much he loved black women,” Mish told The Post.
He was sexually aggressive during their first in-person meet-up last year. After finally engaging in consensual sex, he ghosted her.
She later discovered he had a sordid history of fetishizing black women for his personal pleasures, then dumping them once he’d had his fun.

“He targets black women because we’re seen as sexual objects, nothing more,” she said, noting that they never spoke again.
so if he had done it to anyone, regardless of skin color, she would ok with that. yah...i don't think so. if she was not ok with him being so sexually aggressive, and making a point of telling her how much he like black women, then why did she continue to date him and then finally agree to consensual sex? she had her own part in this, just as much as he did. she didn't want to be seen as a sexual object, but agrees to be a sexual object. everybody knows internet dating sites are populated with hook up minded people. that isn't everyone, but a good size portion of users are. some people are just douches. get a better screening process, and USE IT.

and the fetish thing? i have very big boobs and i am a red head and i am white. you want to talk about fetishes? i feel ya!

how often does she get told to her face, by some man she doesn't even know, what he would like to do to her. specifically to her boobs. or to ask her certain questions about her hair....we'll leave that one at that. how many times in one month has she had men put hands on in the grocery store or at the gas station, or physically pick her up? or tell her how he wants to lick her oh so very white skin?

none of that is ok, but it is a regular occurrence for me. that and much, much more. it is not right, it is not ok. it is life. i should not have to deal with it, but i do have to deal with it. some people are just pigs. she is going to need to get a thicker skin.
 

vestige

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I've heard the same..................Black women are bossy and want you to spend mega bucks on them for all weaves, nails and bling.......there is truth to them saying, "Girls I'm large and I'm in charger!"

What I notice about big Black women is they sweat more than any other humans in the gym.............ugh....lol!

Some Black men also see having a White woman by their side as "sticking to the man" as well..........well cracker you had my ancestors as slaves but looks what I got know........your daughter!!!
Pb ameliorates those thoughts.
 

The Hammer

Veteran Member
And why is it only humans on those sites?

Why not a nice picture of an emotional support parrot or ferret? I mean, inter-specie dating is a thing too... :eek:
 

bw

Fringe Ranger
I guess like the old arranged marriages?
Still happening. Sometimes it works quite well, and sometimes not. The success often depends on what people expect of marriage. Much of the time marriage is an economic transaction, and love is nice when it happens but is not expected as a matter of course. The Fiddler On The Roof song is quite funny, and often true.
 

MinnesotaSmith

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well, sweet cheeks, i don't like it either. that doesn't stop it from happening. there is a section of the male population that just does it. you can't help it. you can't stop it. they best things to do is avoid it when possible, and to toughen up when it is not possible to avoid. clearly, there is a line a behavior that is unacceptable. i think we all know what that is.
but upset because you are viewed as a sexual object.....let's not look at our own behavior though...right?



so if he had done it to anyone, regardless of skin color, she would ok with that. yah...i don't think so. if she was not ok with him being so sexually aggressive, and making a point of telling her how much he like black women, then why did she continue to date him and then finally agree to consensual sex? she had her own part in this, just as much as he did. she didn't want to be seen as a sexual object, but agrees to be a sexual object. everybody knows internet dating sites are populated with hook up minded people. that isn't everyone, but a good size portion of users are. some people are just douches. get a better screening process, and USE IT.

and the fetish thing? i have very big boobs and i am a red head and i am white. you want to talk about fetishes? i feel ya!

how often does she get told to her face, by some man she doesn't even know, what he would like to do to her. specifically to her boobs. or to ask her certain questions about her hair....we'll leave that one at that. how many times in one month has she had men put hands on in the grocery store or at the gas station, or physically pick her up? or tell her how he wants to lick her oh so very white skin?

none of that is ok, but it is a regular occurrence for me. that and much, much more. it is not right, it is not ok. it is life. i should not have to deal with it, but i do have to deal with it. some people are just pigs. she is going to need to get a thicker skin.
D*mn. Who knew?
 
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Oreally

Veteran Member
Prediction: forcing dating sites & apps into not letting customers screen for race won't be enough. Next will be affirmative action for underappreciated groups, by overrepresenting them in search results. After that, people being assigned partners (and spouses!) will come, with whites NEVER being matched up with another white (unless they're homos, and not certain then). Oh, and don't be surprised if they match you up with a transexual (post- or pre-op, who knows what you'll get). :kk1:

Why your swipes on Hinge and OKCupid might be racist

By Asia Grace
February 19, 2021



Why your swipes on Hinge and OKCupid might be racist

"The authors of a new book are arguing for race-blind dating apps — and the removal of filters for race and ethnicity.
Finding love, they say, isn’t so black-and-white.

In a new book, “The Dating Divide: Race and Desire in the Era of Online Romance,” sociologists Jennifer Lundquist, Celeste Vaughan Curington and Ken Hou-Lin show how online dating sites exacerbate racial divisions.
They found that race-related “preference” filters on digital dating platforms help foster racist attitudes — especially toward black women. “Filtering out people based on race is a normal practice on dating apps,” Lundquist told The Post. “The idea of having racial preferences is unacceptable and illegal in any other arena,” she added. “But it’s literally built into the structure of these dating apps.”

A 2014 study about dating preferences along racial lines on OKCupid came to a similar conclusion: Black women had a hard time matching on dating apps, as did black and Asian men.
(The 2014 study also found that preferring to date within one’s race was fairly common. For instance, black women preferred to date black men at a rate surpassed only by Asian women’s preference for Asian men.)

For their book, Lundquist and her co-writers analyzed large-scale behavioral data from one of the leading dating sites in America. The authors declined to publicly reveal which digital dating platform they used for their research per a data-share agreement with the website.
They also conducted over 75 in-depth interviews with daters of diverse racial backgrounds and sexual identities.

The authors found that racial filtering on mating forums exposed black women to more exclusion and rejection than white, Latina and Asian female daters. Black women were the most likely to be excluded from searches, as well as the most likely recipients of offensive messages.
The research trio found that discrimination is laced into the algorithms of mainstream dating apps and websites.

“[It’s] this idea that it’s OK to say, ‘I prefer this race of people, and I don’t like this race of people for my romantic interest,’” Curington explained to The Post.
Hinge, OKCupid, Plenty of Fish and Match.com offer race and ethnicity filters, while Tinder and Bumble do not.

While plenty of people have “a type” when it comes to dating, the researchers found that filtering for race also let “people feel free to express their biases and racial misogyny towards women of color in a way they typically wouldn’t in a face-to-face encounter,” Lundquist said.

So, how did users go from being ignored to harassed? One possible explanation: When the average dating-app user doesn’t see black women because of the filters they’ve set, you end up with a higher percentage of users seeking black women as a “fetish.”

For Nicole, a 39-year-old Afro Caribbean single mother from Brooklyn, receiving overly sexual overtures from non-black men on apps has become an unwelcome norm.
“Right off the bat these guys are approaching me with, ‘Hey, sexy chocolate,’ or ‘I love your beautiful black body. Can you twerk?,’” the registered nurse told The Post.
Nicole and other black daters who’ve endured racist attitudes while online dating declined to share their full names with The Post for privacy reasons.

“I’m on these apps hoping to find a meaningful relationship and these guys are treating me like a sex object before even extending a proper ‘Hello,’” the Brooklyn resident added.
The authors found that black women on matchmaking platforms must frequently contend with racist stereotypes such as the sexually insatiable “Jezebel,” which has roots in slavery, and the “angry black woman” — a belief that black women are innately unruly and ill-tempered.

“We talked to a number of educated black women who were thriving in their careers and looking for comparable partners,” Curington told The Post. “But there’s a disconnect between who they are in real life versus the Jezebel stereotype they’re being subjected to online.”

Mish, a black executive assistant to C-suite business administrators, told The Post that her digital quest for companionship reaped a paltry handful of bad love connections.
“I’m very turned off by dating sites now,” the 53-year-old Bronx native insisted. “They make me feel uneasy. Like I’m not being seen as the beautiful queen I am.”

She recalls one relationship with a Hispanic man that quickly turned sour.
“When we first met, he made a point of telling me how much he loved black women,” Mish told The Post.
He was sexually aggressive during their first in-person meet-up last year. After finally engaging in consensual sex, he ghosted her.
She later discovered he had a sordid history of fetishizing black women for his personal pleasures, then dumping them once he’d had his fun.

“He targets black women because we’re seen as sexual objects, nothing more,” she said, noting that they never spoke again.
Black gay men were also subjected to hypersexualized stereotypes, the authors found.
Clark, a 26-year-old urban contemporary choreographer, told The Post his brush with racism ultimately got him banned from a leading dating app.

“At first this white guy was sweet,” the Manhattan-based dancer explained. “But after a few messages, he asked for nude pictures to see ‘if the rumors about black guys are true.’”
Clark responded to the request with a flurry of expletives. The man reported Clark to the app administrators for “cyber bullying.” Clark’s dating profile was immediately deactivated.

“I couldn’t believe it when I saw my profile was gone. I had to create a whole new account,” Clark told The Post. “It was like I was being attacked twice, once by the white guy and once by the app.”
The authors suggest doing away with racial filters on apps in order to eliminate the perpetuation of racial stereotyping and discrimination.

However, they note that their objective isn’t to bash people for having a dating “type,” nor is it to browbeat folks into dating outside of their race.
“We’re not dumping on dating apps or people’s individual choices,” Curington told The Post. “We just want everyone to be aware of the long-standing societal issues being exacerbated on this platform.”"
this

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a belief that black women are innately unruly and ill-tempered.
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huh?

the 'belief'?????
 

MinnesotaSmith

Has No Life - Lives on TB
oh, that.

no, i'm too short

i thought you meant something else.

but we all knew....
FYI, guys rarely care much about height in potential sex partners, with two exceptions. One is if she is enough taller than him that it bugs her, or looks ridiculous to third parties. The other is if he worries she'd throw him short sons.
Yeah, I was talking assets re you.

Re the OP, black females and Asian males do worst on U.S. dating sites, as they do IRL here. Apparently it boils down to being deemed the least feminine and least masculine groups, respectively.
 

hunybee

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some people don't care about anything else.

i look like meatloaf. meatloaf has some pretty impressive knockers. i get all that attention and i look like meatloaf.

can't help some people. but hey, like i said......someone for everyone, yah?
 
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