OP-ED What women want in 2010: A husband who'll be the main breadwinner

PHD

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What women want in 2010: A husband who'll be the main breadwinner

By Beth Hale
Last updated at 10:09 AM on 18th February 2010



Young mothers are turning their backs on high-powered careers to raise their children, a study has found.

Their mothers, or even grandmothers, lived through a time when women fought for full-time work and better pay.

But today's generation is returning to the traditional values of home and family - and looking to men to be the breadwinners.

The about-face was highlighted yesterday in research presented by leading sociologist Geoff Dench, who has analysed responses to questions asked in the annual British Social Attitudes survey.

His analysis comes against a background of growing political pressure on mothers to go out to work.

It revealed a striking change in values in the decade since New Labour swept to power.

The number of mothers with children under four who thought that family life would suffer if women worked full-time fell in the years before Tony Blair took office, dropping from 43 per cent in 1990 to 21 per cent in 1998. But by 2002 it was rising and in 2006 had soared to 37 per cent.

Similarly the number of women in the same category who agreed that most women want a home and children fell between 1994 and 2002 to 15 per cent.

Regression? Women in 2010 are turning their backs on high-powered careers to raise their children

But in 2006, the last time the question was asked in the survey, that number had rocketed to 32 per cent - higher even than back in 1986 when it stood at 20 per cent.

By far the biggest leap came when women were asked whether they agreed that men and women should have different roles.

In 1986, 40 per cent of women with children under four said 'yes', four years later that had plummeted to 13 per cent and by 2002 it had dropped still lower to 2 per cent.

In 2006, however, that had jumped back up to 17 per cent.

Last night Mr Dench, who completed his analysis for the right-leaning Centre for Policy Studies in association with the Hera Trust, said: 'Women with young children are going back to the very traditional division of labour in which they want the husband as the breadwinner.

'Having tried full-time working themselves they have found the home much more interesting and want to be enabled to have that - especially if the only job they have access to is a dull job.'

He said there had been a gradual move back towards 'more positive evaluations of women's traditional "work" in the family and informal community'.

While mothers have increased the amount of paid work they do, he said this was mostly part-time work, enabling them also to spend time in the home.
He said evidence pointed to the group fuelling the switch being young mothers aged 18 to 34 - the same age as their mothers were when they fought for the right to work on a par with men.

'They are rocking against the Baby Boom generation, in many cases their own parents,' he added. 'Just as young women led the movement into higher levels of paid work, it seems to be young women who are leading a return to more traditional values.'

The number of mothers with children under four working part-time has risen from 10 per cent in 1983 to 1986, to 28 per cent from 2005 to 2008. In the same category the number working full-time has risen from 9 per cent to 19 cent.
Mr Dench said that the women who said they were happiest appeared to be those who valued the housewife role but also did some paid work.

The analysis follows a report from a prominent liberal commentator which also revealed that far from wanting to be 'superwomen who manage everything, plus a high-profiled career', many women just want to be stay-at-home mothers with their husbands taking the role of breadwinner.

Cristina Odone, a former deputy editor of the New Statesman and editor of the Catholic Herald, said millions of women had been left frustrated and miserable by Government policies that push them back into jobs and their children into nurseries.

Ministers have redoubled efforts to persuade mothers to take jobs in the face of evidence that a big majority of the poorest families are two-parent families in which only the father works.

Meanwhile the Equality and Human Rights Commission and equal pay pressure groups say that mothers are often anxious to go back to work but are pressured into a caring role by lack of flexible working hours


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China Connection

TB Fanatic
House husbands on the rise

June 25, 2008

http://blogs.brisbanetimes.com.au/citykat/archives/2008/06/house_husbands.html

House husbandry is a term that's been around for a few decades now - indeed it's considered the height of enlightened manhood to shun the corporate grind in favour of the domestic path less traveled.

But I'm still not convinced men really know what it means to be a mum.

Actually I'm pretty darn sure some blokes see staying at home with the kids as a fantastic reason to remain in underwear all day, eat what they want when they feel like it and basically avoid the irk of 'real' work.

Pardon moi - REAL work?

Sad but true - such was the clandestine admission of more than two househusband friends and acquaintances of mine - seems men still struggle to relate the business of running a household with the traditional, 'more important' business of 'being a man and earning money'.

"Providing for your family is what being a man is all about," Dave* tells me as he bounces baby Josh* on knee.

"Jen* is more able to provide financially for the kids than I am - so I provide the domestic side of the bargain.

Dave is a househusband who loves his kids and doing what he can to give them the environment they need to prosper as people - but both he and his wife admit to moments of frustration that their situation is not "how it was supposed to be."

Are these feelings reflected in the couple of recent studies that suggest women who go to work all day still bear the brunt of the housework responsibilities even after they 'clock off'?

Women who still feel that they are not fulfilling their role as 'mothers' if they are not being maternal/domestic/tending to hearth and home? Are the men who are failing in their housework doing so because they do not understand? Because they are remorseful that they are 'reduced' to such duties?

Perhaps. But lets just first get our heads around what housework actually is - not just what the manicured floozies in shamelessly superficial desperate housewife suburban sitcoms portray.

I'm talking about being the 'mum.'

It's a job that doesn't stop when you head home from a hard day at the office. It's running the home economy, cleaning AND tidying up every bricked nook and mortared cranny that constitutes the family home, organising all activities related to said abode and the people inhabiting it, being on call to remedy any emergencies as they arrive, thinking about the emotional, physical, spiritual and social education of offspring...

It's nurturing, basically, a task that generations of human history has squarely placed on the shoulders of those who bear life.

Rightly so? Or, was such a situation the product of a patriarchy we, certainly here in Brisbane, strive to conquer? Can men nurture as naturally as women and will it satisfy them? And can the daughters of a revolution overcome the nuclear hangover felt through their grandparents and feel just as womanly by choosing the (paid) workforce?

Hmm... keen to hear what you think!
 

Dio

Veteran Member
What! Women want a man to act like a man...not a metro-sexual, not a homo-sexual, not a Momma's boy.........Nature or God, men were created to lead & protect....I think its in our DNA. Human beings have had specific rolls for tens of thousands of years.
 

China Connection

TB Fanatic
House husbands: Are you man enough?

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/4600556/House-husbands-Are-you-man-enough.html

More and more men are swapping PowerPoint for potty training and embracing the role of the stay-at-home father, says Casilda Grigg.

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By Casilda Grigg
Published: 12:02PM GMT 12 Feb 2009
House husbands: Jonathan Payne (with Laura and Theo), Nick Bailey (with Adam and Harry) and Ben Price (with Paloma)
Men about the house (clockwise from top left): Jonathan Payne (with Laura and Theo), Nick Bailey (with Adam and Harry) and Ben Price (with Paloma) Photo: Philip Hollis and Clara Molden

It's 7.30 on a cold winter's morning and three bleary-eyed children are getting ready for school. Alarm clocks are ringing, eggs are frying and the kitchen table is a sea of cereal packets, chewed pencils and exercise books. It's just another frantic weekday morning in a typical British family home, except for one small detail: there's no mother in sight. She left half an hour ago in a sharp suit and a cloud of Je Reviens. This morning, just like any other day of the week, her jeans-clad spouse – aka house husband – is trying to tie shoelaces, pack lunches, blow noses, and get the children out of the house and off to school, without tears, tantrums or mishaps.

Across the land, more and more men are giving up work to become full-time fathers, putting their children's welfare before their professional ambitions, and bucking the trend for selfish career-driven parenting recently criticised by The Good Childhood Inquiry. The latest figures from the Office for National Statistics reveal that there are 192,000 house husbands in the UK, compared to 119,000 16 years ago.

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Some are doing it through economic necessity, others as a positive lifestyle choice. And as the recession starts to really bite, numbers look set to rise further as thousands of redundant men find themselves marooned at home, reliant on their wives' earning power. So fashionable is this new phenomenon that a film is in development, starring Anna Chancellor and John Hannah, about five stay-at-home fathers.

Today, fathers are often closer to their offspring than ever before, but equally there are thousands of children growing up without any contact with a loving male. ''Whether it's changing a nappy, or reading a story, the average father is more involved in his children's lives than he was 30, 40 or 50 years ago,'' says Professor Jay Belsky, director of The Institute for the Study of Children at Birkbeck. ''But over the last 30 years men have also been disappearing from children's lives.''

For many fathers who step off the career ladder, the real challenge is not the childcare itself but the isolation. ''There are all sorts of issues,'' says one stay-at-home father, a civil servant on a two-year sabbatical for childcare purposes. ''Can I join Mumsnet [the networking site for mothers] as a man? And how about mum and toddler groups? Do I go along anyway even if I feel uncomfortable about it?"

For others it's the small challenges, whether it's doing up the tiny buttons on a toddler's coat, or getting the neck of a jumper stuck on a child's nose. ''The hair is one of the hardest things,'' says house husband David Stedman, 40, whose daughter Thea is five. At a recent ballet class, Stedman was forced to admit defeat when the teacher asked him to put Thea's hair in a bun with a net and pins. ''Another five-year-old did it for me.''

But such blips are of no consequence to the cherished child of the stay-at-home dad. ''What children need is love and boundaries, as well as structure and routine,'' says Dr Frances Goodhart, a consultant clinical psychologist. ''That can be provided on a day-to-day basis by either parent.'' Where men bring a fresh approach is in their style of parenting. Experts – and the fathers themselves – say that fathers are often more physical and playful. ''I'm stricter than my wife,'' says stay-at-home father Jonathan Payne, 50. ''But I'm also more larky and tactile. I'll lie on the floor and muck about with the kids.''

British mother-of-three Laura Watts, who lives in Holland, believes that men excel at childcare but often flounder when it comes to the minutiae of domestic life. ''My hunch is that men are less good at the day-to-day running of the household. It's all those little extras like remembering to send birthday cards or buying the children new shoes."

True though this may be, for many fathers the struggles of multitasking are amply rewarded by the deep closeness they develop with their offspring. But that isn't to say the picture is entirely rosy. Divorce lawyer Vanessa Lloyd Platt has warned of the strain such role swapping can place on marriages. And even when such arrangements are happily consensual, the trade-off can dent a man's confidence, particularly if he feels a loss of kudos. PR guru Julia Hobsbawm revealed in a recent interview that her stay-at-home husband, Alaric Bamping, 54, rarely accompanies her on social engagements. After a day at home looking after their three children, he feels he has nothing to talk about.

Perhaps the way forward for a happy, healthy society lies in parents sharing the childcare and the breadwinning, rather than exchanging roles. ''In Amsterdam there are lots of men and women who work part-time so they can spend time with their kids,'' says Laura Watts. ''At my children's school, half the parents picking up their kids are men and they do perfectly normal jobs. Part-time work is built into Dutch society. Now isn't that just wonderful?''
 

trkarl

Contributing Member
Ministers have redoubled efforts to persuade mothers to take jobs in the face of evidence that a big majority of the poorest families are two-parent families in which only the father works.

Yeah right. The real evidence is in this chart.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:UK_taxes.svg

The largest part of the tax revenue pie comes from confiscating the personal income of productive citizens. If these unpatriotic mothers decide there is a lot more to a fulfilling life than just working to support the state then TPTB seem to have a slight revenue adjustment problem on their hands.

Maybe even the Europeans are discovering that going John Galt isn't too bad an idea perhaps?
 

Sligo

Membership Revoked
Maybe what women (and men) want in 2010 is to raise their own children the way THEY see fit to make sure they don't turn out to be rapists, murderers, robbers, serial killers, or just plain bums. Maybe they want their children to have values. Maybe they want their children to understand that the most important group to "belong" to is the family group. Maybe they're sick of the way things are in the world and want to begin the correction. Maybe it doesn't matter if it is the mother or the father that has primary caregiving responsibility as long as it is one of them, and not some stranger. Maybe, hopefully, women and men in 2010 are finally waking up and starting to do right by their children.
 

ShyGirl

Veteran Member
Quote:

Ministers have redoubled efforts to persuade mothers to take jobs in the face of evidence that a big majority of the poorest families are two-parent families in which only the father works.

Yeah right. The real evidence is in this chart.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:UK_taxes.svg

The largest part of the tax revenue pie comes from confiscating the personal income of productive citizens. If these unpatriotic mothers decide there is a lot more to a fulfilling life than just working to support the state then TPTB seem to have a slight revenue adjustment problem on their hands.

Maybe even the Europeans are discovering that going John Galt isn't too bad an idea perhaps?

This is the real issue. I was totally shocked and surprised when I heard Aaron Russo talk about Rockefeller saying that the reason for the feminist movement was to be able to tax the other half of the population and that his family's foundation had created and bankrolled the women's liberation movement in order to destroy the family. Think about it. Dad works and his paycheck gets taxed. Mom works and her paycheck gets taxed. Mom has to put kids in daycare so daycare worker also gets a paycheck that gets taxed. This whole thing does not work if Mom stays home with here kiddos. Then the state can only tax dad's paycheck. Listen at the 7:10 time mark.http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=1263677258215075609#
Also no matter whether a woman works or not the bulk of the housework is still her job.
 

TerriHaute

Hoosier Gardener
What women want in 2010: A husband who'll be the main breadwinner

I always said I got screwed by the women's movement. I always loathed working outside the home. My first husband pushed me back into the work force while our children were young to increase our income (and his frivolous spending). I was divorced for many years after that and so forced by circumstances as a single parent to work. Current DH was all for having me take an early retirement a couple of years ago to return to becoming a full-time homemaker. I have never been so happy as I have during the years when I was able to manage my home full-time. DH and I find life runs so much more smoothly with me at home taking care of the home-front: better meals, household chores are all done during the day while he is at work instead of evenings and weekends, most errands are run during the day, garden work is done during the work week, and a lot more projects around home get completed. DH and I have a lot more free time together as a result and we do not feel like our standard of living has declined, just the opposite. I spent a lot of miserable years sitting in a cubicle, if I had it to do over, I would never have gone back to work after having children.
 

ShyGirl

Veteran Member
I always said I got screwed by the women's movement. I always loathed working outside the home. My first husband pushed me back into the work force while our children were young to increase our income (and his frivolous spending). I was divorced for many years after that and so forced by circumstances as a single parent to work. Current DH was all for having me take an early retirement a couple of years ago to return to becoming a full-time homemaker. I have never been so happy as I have during the years when I was able to manage my home full-time. DH and I find life runs so much more smoothly with me at home taking care of the home-front: better meals, household chores are all done during the day while he is at work instead of evenings and weekends, most errands are run during the day, garden work is done during the work week, and a lot more projects around home get completed. DH and I have a lot more free time together as a result and we do not feel like our standard of living has declined, just the opposite. I spent a lot of miserable years sitting in a cubicle, if I had it to do over, I would never have gone back to work after having children.
:applaud::applaud::applaud:
I also feel I was robbed of the time I wanted and needed to be with my children. I had a very good paying job and did like the work I did but the worry and stress always in the back of my mind about the kids was almost unbearable.
 
....men to be the breadwinners - this was my foremost criteria when I
married and had my son. I knew in my heart no one would take better care
of him, other than myself. It was not easy and we did without things like
vacations; but it did not feel like hardship.

DS was reading by 2 and 'learning' was his favorite pastime.
In school, he was placed in the gifted & talented classes and
completed college in 3 yrs, while he worked part-time.

Yes, he may have turned out just as well if I were not home, but
that was not a gamble I was willing to take.
And now, his wife stays at home with their children.

Our dear children are the best investment and gold & silver
cannot buy a good human being.
 

pauldingbabe

The Great Cat
Maybe what women (and men) want in 2010 is to raise their own children the way THEY see fit to make sure they don't turn out to be rapists, murderers, robbers, serial killers, or just plain bums. Maybe they want their children to have values. Maybe they want their children to understand that the most important group to "belong" to is the family group. Maybe they're sick of the way things are in the world and want to begin the correction. Maybe it doesn't matter if it is the mother or the father that has primary care giving responsibility as long as it is one of them, and not some stranger. Maybe, hopefully, women and men in 2010 are finally waking up and starting to do right by their children.

I wish all people felt this way. Unfortunately there is a majority who like living in poverty and receiving their checks every month. Even though they may be at home I can guarantee that those kids aren't being raised with good morals and values.

:(
 

China Connection

TB Fanatic
Here in China very few men can support a wife that alone kids. Back home in Australia it is the same. When I was in South Korea I saw things change overnight just about when the economy crashed. They cut the bonus system out which was half of the wage packet for many and devalued the currency in half. So many lost 75% of their purchasing power in a matter of a few months. So add to this many lost their jobs so those left working had to help out the extended family.

I expect wages in the West to keep dropping to level up with a general wage that will be established world wide.
 

ShyGirl

Veteran Member
So, the lesson here for single men is to look for single mothers?

NO!!!

The lesson here is to wisely choose your mate before you have children. A family is a lifetime joint venture and what is best for children is being raised by the people who created them and love them more than anyone else on earth can. I think a happy family unit is good for children, moms and dads. Men should be allowed to be men who do what they do best; protect and support their family. Woman should be allowed to be woman who do what they do best; nuture and love their children and husband. I know many feministas will start yelling about all of the advancements we as woman have made but what I see are broken homes, broken children, mothers who weren't allowed to raise their babies and lost men who were minimized and never allowed to take care of their families. Blended xfamilies are also a risky venture and I think in most cases cause more harm than good. Lots of hurt feelings all around and confused children.

I wish I had learned this lesson 50 years ago before all of the crazy days of 2 divorces, angry children, daycare centers, trying to support myself and my children, fights over child support, stress, worry, etc, etc, etc. Most women hate being separated from their children especially on a regular basis like when you have to work. The baby boomer moms, dads and children were part of a bad experiment that ruined many lives.
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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When women choose to SERVE THEIR HUSBANDS AND FAMILIES rather than THEMSELVES FIRST, things will turn around. Until then, forget it. I will never be the "breadwinner" for a woman again. I will not support somone who may well just decide to hurt and abuse me.


(Note that the "service" is not uni-directional; men must also choose to serve their wives and families before themselves.)
 

Double_A

TB Fanatic
So what they're saying here is that now that women are getting what they've been demanding, they've now changed their minds?

:lkick:
 

ShakinSouth

Inactive
If a lot of mommas went home and raised their babies, not only would behavior of children improve, but people would learn how to make do with less, live on less than they make, and there would be more jobs for men. I vote yes for those that want to do it. The bigger house and nicer car just aren't worth having momma and daddy both working outside the home.
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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Double A, yup. It's now their evident preference to be supported while they lie and cheat on their husbands...
 

WildDaisy

God has a plan, Trust it!
So, the lesson here for single men is to look for single mothers?

The lesson here is for single men and single women to look for a partner who will be a team member, not someone who takes and doesn't give back.

If one works to support the family, one works to support the home, if both work to support the family, both work to support the home.

Husbands and wives need to be equally yolked, as said in the bible. This means spiritually as well as physically.

When you have a cart being pulled by two oxen, and one ox does all the pulling and the other ox just digs in their heels and is lazy, it makes more work for the lone working ox. Nothing worse then having to drag a lazy ox (or ass for that matter) through the mud of life. But if both Oxen pull the cart with equal force, the load is light and easy to bare.
 

ShyGirl

Veteran Member
I don't think serve is the right word or attitude. The attitude that woman were serving men is probably what allowed this mess to get started. That also made it look like her job at home was less important than his job out in the world. I don't think you are serving a man when you emotionally support him, care for the home and care for the children so that he can go out and do what he does in the world to support the family. It is a support system where both adults make a commitment to the family unit. Neither person is less than or in servitude to the other. There has to be mutual respect for the other person and respect for what each does to maintain the family unit. That is why choosing your lifetime partner is most important. You both need to be grown ups before you start and make the commitment to tough it out through all the good and bad times. If one person is just using the other person and expecting to be served without giving back it is not an equal commitment and the lack of respect breeds resentment. IMHO
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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Many (most?) "modern" western women are basically users IMO. They tend to be selfish and self-serving, and will use a man until he's no longer deemed to be uf use, at which time she goes "hunting" from fresh meat...
 

Cheval

Veteran Member
Many (most?) "modern" western women are basically users IMO. They tend to be selfish and self-serving, and will use a man until he's no longer deemed to be uf use, at which time she hoes "hunting" from fresh meat...

slip of the keyboard? :lol:

Remember the movie "The Mask" with Jim Carrey? He's talking in the bank with a guy and Cameron Diaz comes walking in and the guy says that a girl like that is always looking for the BBD ("Bigger, Better Deal"). imho many of the women these days are like that from what I see. :shr:

*disclaimer*
Of course many guys are out looking for the hotter girl with the Himalayas instead of the Smokey Mountains.... so I know it goes both ways.

:rdog:
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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Oops! Fixed. And oddly enough (I guess) the size of a woman's, um, "endowment" never did a thing for me. As a matter of fact, I always considered huge boobs to look stupid and ugly.
 

Cheval

Veteran Member
Oops! Fixed. And oddly enough (I guess) the size of a woman's, um, "endowment" never did a thing for me. As a matter of fact, I always considered huge boobs to look stupid and ugly.

Depends on the woman and her body size, etc. Overall I'm indifferent. But I know guys that have nothing else that decides it for them 'cept the size of a woman's chest. stupid imho. But I also know girls that go after black guys exclusively because their manhood is big...stupidity knows no gender it seems. :screw:
 

ShyGirl

Veteran Member
I understand your pain Dennis. If you would have talked with me 20 years ago after my second divorce I would have said that all men were selfish little boys who just wanted you to wait on them and all they wanted to do was to go out drinking with the boys and screw around with every woman they saw. There are good people out there but it will take time for the hurt to go away.
 

Chair Warmer

Membership Revoked
I've gotten so tired of society telling women what they SHOULD do when the decision should only be between her and her huband and children and what's best for them!

Mrs. Chair Warmer
 

ejagno

Veteran Member
My children are all living away from home now and doing quite well. I worked. I resented and regretted every single day that I had to struggle with the balancing act of keeping up with the home, garden, meals, bills, children time, husband time and personal time. It didn't work then and in my opinion short changed everyone involved in the madness. Now that they are all gone I went back to work after taking a year off when my son was injured. It's no better. It's too hard to keep up with everything when both husband and wife are splitting themselves into a million pieces trying to maintain. My first love is my family and my home and this is where my heart is.
 

blueberry

Inactive
On the other side of the coin, it can backfire on you - it certainly backfired on me. I was a stay at home wife and mom, canning, gardening, baking, with a home cooked meal on the table every night. When my husband deserted us, taking all the money and assets, I was left with all the bills, our children, no money and no job.

I had no education and no job experience, so it took me years and years of working several minimum wage jobs to dig out of the mess he left us in. That made me wonder …. if I had worked during that time, would I have been able to find better and higher paying jobs. So there are both sides of the coin. A working wife might be better able to provide for her family should she ever find herself alone, for whatever reason.

Looking back though, I would not have changed a thing. I treasure the years I spent as a full time wife and mom, always being there for my family.
 

Warthog

Black Out
The women who want this should think about what happens if their hubby gets hurt or disabled! Better stay in the work force women, at least part time! Stay out too long and you won't get back in.:shr:
 

Harbinger

Veteran Member
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This is the real issue. I was totally shocked and surprised when I heard Aaron Russo talk about Rockefeller saying that the reason for the feminist movement was to be able to tax the other half of the population and that his family's foundation had created and bankrolled the women's liberation movement in order to destroy the family. Think about it. Dad works and his paycheck gets taxed. Mom works and her paycheck gets taxed. Mom has to put kids in daycare so daycare worker also gets a paycheck that gets taxed. This whole thing does not work if Mom stays home with here kiddos. Then the state can only tax dad's paycheck. Listen at the 7:10 time mark.http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=1263677258215075609#
Also no matter whether a woman works or not the bulk of the housework is still her job.

No! You're Kidding! You mean there was a hidden agenda behind the woman's movement!


:eek:

sorry couldn't help myself. :D:D

IMO there were a lot of good posts on here. But I simply get tired of how people including medias, govt, and many activist groups just constantly make light of marriage. Encourage the degrading of this great institute, and taking advantage of it. It was meant to be a union where two people come together as one, to fight together, struggle together, and endure together. Where up on; lesson about life are born, learned, and understood; concepts such as patience, understanding, sacrificial love, respect, and trust. Things that should be deep rooted and carried on by the children; to teach those who come after wards.

Unfortunately; these things are looked down upon and even hated in today's society. Greed, hate, thievery, coveting, lying, selfishness, and other sins are accepted, encouraged, and the norm. These character traits though will enable a person to go further, gain more, and be seen by others; in the end it only bares temporary satisfaction, temporary idolization, false security, heavy hardship/burden at best and the end result almost always comes with a heavy price. One can not escape these character traits on a secular level but one can choose not to bring it into a marriage. When these things are left out, marriage then becomes a comfort, an escape, an enduring institute that; as God intended, never becomes a burden.

JMHO

harbinger
 

brandyh29

Inactive
I worked outside of the home until I became pregnant with my 3rd child. At that point I stayed home and became a permanent stay-at-home mom. I can see a significant difference in my 3rd baby. He is such an awesome little guy, he has never been in a daycare a single day in his life, whereas my older 2 spent 5 days a week in daycare for a few years. My youngest shows more affection than my other 2 kids, he is just a geniunely sweet little kid. I get compliments on him all the time. My other 2 kids are good kids Im not saying their not, but my youngest is much more well-rounded and you can see a difference. I am very lucky that my husband works his butt off so I can stay here with my kiddos. He is all too happy to have it this way too. He works side jobs & whatever it takes so that my kids get to stay home with me. I have the perfect husband, I love him. :D
 
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