CHAT Not in the Thanksgiving Mood this Year

JMG91

Veteran Member
Those pies look great!

My thanksgiving disaster happened when I neglected to clean the sweet potato drippings out of the oven before baking the turkey. Thought the fire department was going to show up with all the smoke, omg. Had to pull the turkey out, wait for the oven to cool, and replace the foil lining the oven. Turkey still turned out great.

I'm a silver lining type of gal. A little disappointed DH is under the weather and we can't go to the in-laws, but that just means I don't have to put on a bra today ;)
:lkick:
 

psychgirl

Has No Life - Lives on TB
:)

My spirit is better. Cooking our small turkey breast, slices of ham from the hog in the freezer; Stove Top Stuffing (yum!) ; mashed potatoes; etc... I asked hubby if it smelled like thanksgiving yet, as many here also we are by ourselves today too....his reply?

“It smells like love, honey, it smells like love”.


That’s all I needed to hear.
 

Mprepared

Veteran Member
My daughter wants to cook and do it at her house and my brother is kind of bummed about it. He usually does the turkey and I do the sides and daughter comes to help, but all I am making is pumpkin pie and we are all going to her house and then no leftovers for us, so will be weird, but my son is happy and trying to be in a good mood and looking forward to Christmas, so I decided to be cheerful and start decorating and son is doing the lights.
 

goosebeans

Veteran Member
That's so lovely, psychgirl! I hope you have a wonderful day together.

Hate to admit it but I'm with packy. Absolutely no interest in the holidays at all. S.A,D. kicked in early this year and I'm really struggling to accomplish the smallest tasks. It all seems pointless. I keep chugging down vitamins, especially D3. To make things worse, we were invited to a neighbor's for Thanksgiving dinner. They're very extroverted people and have what seems like hundreds of friends. Every weekend they have company coming in to stay from all over the eastern seaboard. A family of five from out of state just left yesterday. Well, at 63, I'm trying to stay as isolated as possible. Hubby, on the other hand wanted to go. So he's at the neighbor's and son and I stayed home - son couldn't care less about the holidays either. I'm having a bit of a pity party to be honest. I'd like to go to sleep and wake up at lambing time, in April. I have no family in this country and it gets a bit lonely sometimes. :(
 

energy_wave

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Or are you driving distance of south/central MO, close to AR state line?

I'm in WNY.

I heard my kitchen door open this morning which woke me up, then I fell back a sleep. Got up to make coffee and found the X wife had left me a birthday present. A case of cat food and a bag of groceries full of veg and fruit along with a card. Also a few mini pies so I have something to put my 60 year candle on. Same candle we had on my moms birthday cake a few decades ago. Had no beer for tonight so I hopped on the ten speed and rode 1.5 miles into town in a light mist and found Dollar General was still open. Would you believe I was asked for an ID? And, my license expired today. Stopped at the post office as I came home and there was my renewal notice. Now if I could just get my truck back on the road.
 

AlfaMan

Has No Life - Lives on TB
That's so lovely, psychgirl! I hope you have a wonderful day together.

Hate to admit it but I'm with packy. Absolutely no interest in the holidays at all. S.A,D. kicked in early this year and I'm really struggling to accomplish the smallest tasks. It all seems pointless. I keep chugging down vitamins, especially D3. To make things worse, we were invited to a neighbor's for Thanksgiving dinner. They're very extroverted people and have what seems like hundreds of friends. Every weekend they have company coming in to stay from all over the eastern seaboard. A family of five from out of state just left yesterday. Well, at 63, I'm trying to stay as isolated as possible. Hubby, on the other hand wanted to go. So he's at the neighbor's and son and I stayed home - son couldn't care less about the holidays either. I'm having a bit of a pity party to be honest. I'd like to go to sleep and wake up at lambing time, in April. I have no family in this country and it gets a bit lonely sometimes. :(

Goosebeans, you actually do have family in this country. Us, the TB2K family. Sure, we're all virtual and sometimes this place puts the "fun" in dysfunctional-but we are a virtual family for you and send you all the love and well wishes for a happy thanksgiving. Don't get down-it may be a sad time of year but we all have many and untold blessings to be thankful for.
 

Michael111

Membership Revoked
Goosebeans, you actually do have family in this country. Us, the TB2K family. Sure, we're all virtual and sometimes this place puts the "fun" in dysfunctional-but we are a virtual family for you and send you all the love and well wishes for a happy thanksgiving. Don't get down-it may be a sad time of year but we all have many and untold blessings to be thankful for.
AMEN and AMEN!
 

Dystonic

Senior Member
Two months ago a dear friend who had been an Army Cav Scout took his life. The impact has shaken so many people who really cared for that cranky old bastard.
Tuesday, my mom was feeling sick and went to the ER. Both her and my stepdad got test for that damned Chink virus. He came back positive. They were excited to supply lunch for DW’s two care homes and are now quarantined.
And two hours ago, I find out an old boss and incredible human being passed away Tuesday from pancreatic cancer.
But I’m helping with lunch at one of my DW’s care homes. I’m in service to these elderly whose families don’t want to hassle with them. The world grows cold but faith will see me through.
 

hunybee

Veteran Member
No guests, no dishes.

Opened the windows, washed and pressed the curtains, changed the bed linens, put a new cover on the ironing board.

Listening to Glenn Miller and Bennie Goodman. Might as well be 1945. I'm okay with that.

It's all good.


i wish i was there!

we all do. they keep asking me when we get to go visit lol

one day. i am trying

:)
 

abby normal

insert appropriate adjective here
Well the obvious glum mood of mine is from the loss of my Lori 118 days ago...........but add to that this covid lockdown/social distancing...............and now the holiday's begin and like anything else in life today they a strange surreal event under the current virus dodging circumstances.....................

Then the gloom is also hanging on the shoulders of all of us who wonder what our country will end up like in the future given everything that has been going on in the sociopolitical atmosphere and you have a recipe for feeling exactly like you do....
I have been thinking about you. Good to see you posting. Bad enough to be in the grieving process but all the other crap going on along with it. You are very strong. Hugs for you
 

abby normal

insert appropriate adjective here
I'm in WNY.

I heard my kitchen door open this morning which woke me up, then I fell back a sleep. Got up to make coffee and found the X wife had left me a birthday present. A case of cat food and a bag of groceries full of veg and fruit along with a card. Also a few mini pies so I have something to put my 60 year candle on. Same candle we had on my moms birthday cake a few decades ago. Had no beer for tonight so I hopped on the ten speed and rode 1.5 miles into town in a light mist and found Dollar General was still open. Would you believe I was asked for an ID? And, my license expired today. Stopped at the post office as I came home and there was my renewal notice. Now if I could just get my truck back on the road.
I haven't wished you happy birthday yet, glad you are having a few bright spots today. I got a chuckle when you said you got carded :chg: Cheers
 

Signwatcher

Has No Life - Lives on TB
After killing half the Kraken bottle (please pray for me - this has got to stop) and dealing with a "Happy Thanksgiving to you," text at 12:01 am, from the soon to be Ex, and a reply to him at 4 am, it's onward and upward. Had a few hours sleep.

The reply I sent had a picture of the dog and said, "Happy Thanksgiving from Shadow and me."

He was mad I got the dog... WHY should he care, we haven't lived together for over 7 years!! He went on a text rant not long ago that included:. I TOLD YOU NO DOGS!!!!!

Yeah, are you my Dad? SERIOUSLY!

Took DS a food plate and came back home.

The sweet man who would like to be with me, but can't, came over to help with a window problem I have. Such a gentleman. Sigh...

Trying to grab on to the bright spots and desperately clutching onto the few rays of sunshine penetrating the clouds.

I will survive this day.
 
For the last 20 yrs i've been all alone for the holidays. Used to it, but don't like it. Was gonna fry up some breaded chicken backs, box stuffing and yams. Already put the yams in the oven.....but my neighbor just called and is dropping off a plate of food for me. She's a GREAT cook!!! She's like a little Martha Stewert. I was sorta looking forward to frying up the chicken since i don't cook much anymore and am trying to get back into it. (Too depressed to cook much). So i guess i can fry up the chicken for Fridays meal. I used to make my own stuffing, but just bought a box. Gonna add can corn to it and some instant rice. Forgot to buy mushrooms. I also have a hot plate i cook on too - when i cook.

Stuffing is my absolute favorite. Years ago when my big fridge worked i used to make a huge pot.....toasted the bread, mushrooms, rice, corn, peas, celery, sage, oregano, basil, boulin cubes, etc. Now i got a tiny fridge and can't fit a big pot in it. My big fridge is broken, the small freezer broke, the stove broke - i cook on a toaster oven now and it works good. The ceiling kitchen light just broke...dimmer stopped working and no light now, but i have a small table lamp on the kitchen table. I have lived like this so long that i don't even know what "normal" is like. I go to other peoples houses and i am amazed how normal things are and they take for granted that everything works. I see how they have less stress too., but i am ok.

Well i picked up the food. Wow. She said enough for two days, but i ate the whole thing... fresh chicken, mash tatoes with gravy, stuffing, yams, squash, corn, cranberry sauce, banana bread, apple and pumpkin pie and a dish and napkin. I didn't eat the dessert. Too full. Gonna eat it at midnite. I called her and thanked her again. Gave the dogs a bit of the chiken. I cooked theirs in the toaster oven. Is hot now so they have to wait until it cools down. Oh, she told me she has a two burner hot plate i can have! So i don't have to buy one. 46 degrees here in the country in Western NY. Slight rain.

Since my neighbor is bringing me turkey etc i decided to fry up 3 chk backs for the 3 dogs., but the hot plate seems to be broken and not working! It worked a few days ago. I had another one in the barn. I got it from Sal army. Plugged it in, put on high and only warm not working either. It's ok. I breaded the chiken and put it in the toaster oven to bake, well the bake doesn't work the broil works. So i just have to turn it over.

At least the dogs will have cooked chiken. I need to get another toaster oven that works. Usually at Sal Army since i can't afford new. I think i can afford to buy a one plate hot plate at walmart for $20 when i get the SSI check. I don't want the toaster oven broil setting to break too. Need to get another one. I had found one in the trash awhile back. Plugged it in., but i got electricuited when touching it so it was no good. I'll be ok. I think. I'm gonna guzzle down some wine now. Neighbor didn't call. Will call her. She said to come and pick it up. Going now.

. At least i have a roof over my head. My kitchen is freezing and i sleep in the front room couch which is warmer there. I got a crock pot i make good soup in too, but only in the winter cuz pot won't fit in the tiny fridge in warmer weather. I have to leave the crock pot on low so the soup does not spoil. I keep the crock pot in the front room cuz the kitchen is so cold. I'm living on the edge, but am surviving ok. I got plenty of stocks, so wont starve. In fact i doubt i will eat all those buckets before i die.

I keep adding things at the end, but they somehow got in the middle.
 
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Meemur

Voice on the Prairie / FJB!
After killing half the Kraken bottle (please pray for me - this has got to stop)

Prayers said!

You might benefit from attending the nearest AA meeting. In my area, they are held almost daily at several churches (both in person and online via Zoom).

Try Googling "AA meetings close to me." PM me your location if you need help finding one. Even if you aren't an alcoholic, attending a meeting with the right group can help keep you on the wagon. I acknowledge that some meetings are better than others. Sometimes one has to shop a bit.
 
I've ratcheted down my news and current events by 90%, concentrating on my faith, family and reigniting simple interests like bird watching, watching good historical documentaries and movies, staying away from modern media and content.

My mood has improved tenfold and I'm very much looking forward to tomorrow.
I feel so guilty. In early summer i used to feed the birds here and i had 4 blue jays, 2 woodpeckers, 2 red cardinals and some chikadees., but then husband stopped supporting me and i couldn't afford to feed the birds anymore and had to stop. Now they are all gone. I sometimes see the chikadees. I should be divorced by March and will have more money then and will start to feed them again. It makes me so sad that i can't afford to buy them food.
 

Signwatcher

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Prayers said!

You might benefit from attending the nearest AA meeting. In my area, they are held almost daily at several churches (both in person and online via Zoom).

Try Googling "AA meetings close to me." PM me your location if you need help finding one. Even if you aren't an alcoholic, attending a meeting with the right group can help keep you on the wagon. I acknowledge that some meetings are better than others. Sometimes one has to shop a bit.
Thanks for the prayers and advice. I just need a break from all the InSaNiTy for a bit. Every time I try to come up for a breather, I'm getting hit by another huge wave.

Don't think I would do well with AA anyway. Used to light up a cigarette when leaving the stop smoking meetings. I did quit on my own January 11, 1984.

I'm gonna get through this some how.
 

Faroe

Un-spun
After killing half the Kraken bottle (please pray for me - this has got to stop) and dealing with a "Happy Thanksgiving to you," text at 12:01 am, from the soon to be Ex, and a reply to him at 4 am, it's onward and upward. Had a few hours sleep.

The reply I sent had a picture of the dog and said, "Happy Thanksgiving from Shadow and me."

He was mad I got the dog... WHY should he care, we haven't lived together for over 7 years!! He went on a text rant not long ago that included:. I TOLD YOU NO DOGS!!!!!

Yeah, are you my Dad? SERIOUSLY!

Took DS a food plate and came back home.

The sweet man who would like to be with me, but can't, came over to help with a window problem I have. Such a gentleman. Sigh...

Trying to grab on to the bright spots and desperately clutching onto the few rays of sunshine penetrating the clouds.

I will survive this day.
My unsolicited suggestion is to arrange matters so you can TOTALLY disengage from the toxic people in your life. No comms, whatsoever! Also, lots of good info on YouTube re. narcissism. That might not be his problem, but sounds close enough - Crazy has plenty of crossover with that rx. Find the lady doc that has the last name from India. She has dozens of YT's on narcissism, and good advice. The comments are useful too.
 

Meemur

Voice on the Prairie / FJB!
I feel for you, Mary. Sometimes a homemade birdbath and some suet will keep them coming around. If you have a butcher nearby, chat with him about buying some suet cheaply. One summer, I planted a row of sunflowers and harvested the seeds for the birds, what was left of the seeds anyway, hahahah!

I decided not to feed the birds at my present house. I go watch them on the trails. It's more economical. I donate homemade suet cakes to the nearby DNR ranger's station once a year to help feed the little beggers.

run time: 7:32

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u8HKhk18IuU
 
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packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
I'm back. Turkey is smoking out on the grill, natural charcoal, and pear wood, the dressing is baking in the countertop oven in a cast iron skillet. I made cranberry sauce last night, and chunky applesauce using seven types of apples on Tuesday. The rutabagas are just now coming up to a boil for mashed creamed rutabagas, and more stock is simmering on the back burner of the stove. The root veggies are in a baggie in the fridge waiting for their turn to be baked in the oven, and OC is currently looking up a recipe for corn pudding/casserole. I spent the last four hours chopping vegetables, lol.

The Sun is shining and it's been a nice quite day. Hope everyone here had a good day as well.
 

Meemur

Voice on the Prairie / FJB!
That's a good video. I've got it bookmarked. Others would benefit from seeing that. Thanks!
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
Goosebeans, you actually do have family in this country. Us, the TB2K family. Sure, we're all virtual and sometimes this place puts the "fun" in dysfunctional-but we are a virtual family for you and send you all the love and well wishes for a happy thanksgiving. Don't get down-it may be a sad time of year but we all have many and untold blessings to be thankful for.

This^^^ I'm pretty sure someone prayed for me yesterday after i posted this thread, I woke up in a much better mood today... still don't have the eggs boiled for deviled eggs but I can do that over the weekend!
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
I was hopeful that you would feel better today. It's sunny and the air quality is good. I hope you can spend some time sitting outside, even if under a blanket.

Didn't go outside today, with everyone around us, and us, smoking meat today the air quality would probably wreck my lungs and in short order, tomorrow is looking promising though. And thank you!
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
Thanks for the prayers and advice. I just need a break from all the InSaNiTy for a bit. Every time I try to come up for a breather, I'm getting hit by another huge wave.

Don't think I would do well with AA anyway. Used to light up a cigarette when leaving the stop smoking meetings. I did quit on my own January 11, 1984.

I'm gonna get through this some how.

Do a step down technique, google it if you need more info. So you killed a half bottle last night... try a quarter bottle for the next few weeks. Then step down from that for a few more weeks, so on and so forth. Then you only drink every other day, then every third day, and then you stop. It's what I do, AA wouldn't work with my personality type at all.
 

goosebeans

Veteran Member
Goosebeans, you actually do have family in this country. Us, the TB2K family. Sure, we're all virtual and sometimes this place puts the "fun" in dysfunctional-but we are a virtual family for you and send you all the love and well wishes for a happy thanksgiving. Don't get down-it may be a sad time of year but we all have many and untold blessings to be thankful for.

Thanks AlfaMan! I get really angry at myself because I have absolutely nothing to be depressed about. But it hits every year in November and starts to lift when the daffodils pop up. I'm already ready for daffodils!
 
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