CHAT 10 years since my daughters murder

iboya

iboya

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10 years ago on Christmas Eve my daughter was murdered by her husband.
Everyone here on tb2k walked this journey with me.
9 years ago on Christmas Eve after coming home from my daughters 1 year police memorial I walked in the house to find my son dead from a self-inflicted gun shot wound.
You here on tb2k walked this journey with me a second time.
Thank you

In memory of my baby Jenni

Part1
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMDeQmBJDq8

Part2
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUWTtZnt6Hk

Part3
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yFf42kzYRpI
 
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usmcpackrat

usmcpackrat

Veteran Member
I remember......but could not even imagine.
Hugs and prayers sent your way.

We might not be directly alongside you in meat world, but, that doesn't mean that we are any less family. For here YOU ARE amongst your family.

My family's love sent to you.......
 
iboya

iboya

Veteran Member
Fair use cited
TobyMac - 21 Years
TobyMac's tribute to his 21 year old son who died from an accidental drug overdose

(in memory of my son Jake, he was 28)

View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Wt2vc93Q6Jk


Lyrics

Woke up 'cause the light poured in (light poured in)
Day two, let the flood begin
Day one left me in my bed (in my bed)
I can barely remember it
Heart shattered in a thousand ways
They tell me pain gonna come in waves (come in waves)
They tell me I'm gonna be okay (be okay)
Still waitin' for the first to break
Why would You give and then take him away?
Suddenly end, could You not let it fade?
What I would give for a couple o' days (couple o' days)
A couple o' days

Is it just across the Jordan
Or a city in the stars?
Are ya singin' with the angels?
Are you happy where you are?
Well, until this show is over
And you've run into my arms
God has you in Heaven
But I have you in my heart
I have you in my heart

I just can't make sense of this (sense of this)
Everything is so dissonant (so dissonant)
Somebody said, "He was meant for this" (meant for this)
But I'm just straight missin' him
I wanna wake up to your laugh at two (laugh at two)
Catch ya when you steal my shoes (steal my shoes)
Say, "Good mornin', afternoon" (afternoon)
Talk ya through those "Alex blues" (Alex blues)
Listen to your latest beats (latest beats)
Talk about what the lyrics mean
Venmo you another loan ('nother loan)
See ya do your second show

You said, "You'd turn, you would turn it around" (turn it around)
Thought that you had time to straighten it out (straighten it out)
Told me that you were my prodigal son
But this isn't home

Is it just across the Jordan
Or a city in the stars?
Are ya singin' with the angels?
Are you happy where you are?
Well, until this show is over
And you've run into my arms
God has you in Heaven
But I have you in my heart

I have you in my heart
Did he see You from a long way off (did he see you?)
Runnin' to him with a father's heart? (Runnin' to him)
Did You wrap him up inside Your arms
And let him know that he's home?
Did he see You from a long way off
Runnin' to him with a father's heart?
Did You wrap him up inside Your arms
And let him know that he's home?
Is it just across the Jordan
Or a city in the stars? (City in the stars)
Are ya singin' with the angels?
Are you happy where you are? (Happy where you are)
Well, until this show is over
And you've run into my arms (run into my arms)
God has you in Heaven
21 years makes a man full-grown
21 years, what a beautiful loan
21 years, I love everyone (love everyone)
Thank you Lord for my beautiful son (beautiful son)
 
tnphil

tnphil

Don't screw with an engineer
Damn. You have had so many rough patches, yet your faith is unwavering. I mourn your losses, but you inspire many of us to keep the faith and keep going in the face of indomitable circumstances. Thank you for sharing. It has to be painful, and I hope you find comfort. Know that we here share in your pain, we understand it to some degree and pray that you have the fortitude to continue.

You are inspiration to us.
 
Firebird

Firebird

Has No Life - Lives on TB
I remember it well, and have thought about it many times over the years. You have been strong walking this path, and your strength is inspiring. I too buried my daughter, but I cannot imagine losing a 2nd child. Prayers for you during this difficult anniversary.
 
iboya

iboya

Veteran Member
Firebird said:
I remember it well, and have thought about it many times over the years. You have been strong walking this path, and your strength is inspiring. I too buried my daughter, but I cannot imagine losing a 2nd child. Prayers for you during this difficult anniversary.
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I remember you sharing about your daughter. Sending you gentle hugs and tender thoughts
 
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Walrus

Veteran Member
iboya said:
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10 years ago on Christmas Eve my daughter was murdered by her husband.
Everyone here on tb2k walked this journey with me.
9 years ago on Christmas Eve after coming home from my daughters 1 year police memorial I walked in the house to find my son dead of a self-inflicted gun shot wound.
You here on tb2k walked this journey with me a second time.
Thank you

In memory of my baby Jenni

Part1
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zMDeQmBJDq8

Part2
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUWTtZnt6Hk

Part3
View: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yFf42kzYRpI
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A path no parent should have to walk once but especially not twice. Lord bless you in this time of memory of her.
 
jward

jward

passin' thru
I remember : ((
Once again, you’ve my heartfelt condolences, offered with the hot tea, warm hugs and tremendous compassion. I hope it in some small way helps to know that when I find this road too rough, and being separated from my babies, DHs, and the Good Lord by that veil, too hard, I look to you, and the many others in similar positions, to lite the road and lighten the load.
I’ve drawn comfort and encouragement, and found the path more bearable, due the great graciousness of your example, and the generosity with which you share it. Thank you. Tonight, especially I wish you peace & great joy as you remember the blessed times, and that they eclipse for you, at least for a few precious moments, the bad.
 
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Rabbit

Has No Life - Lives on TB
I have not forgotten the tragedies or the terrible pain you have suffered. I also know that only your faith in God has brought you through. Ten years doesn't seem that long but at the same time, it seems like forever. Hugs and prayers dear lady.
 
Milkweed Host

Milkweed Host

Veteran Member
I watched the three videos, how horrible.
I remember reading about this on the internet, but was unaware about
your son. It saddens me greatly that someone can harm a person that they
so loved.........It makes absolutely no sense???

You would have welcomed him into your house for holidays and
just about everything with open arms. Yet, he steals the happy future that
your family should have been enjoying now. I do believe that someday, Jesus
will bring all of your family back together. I always say my nightly prayers and will
add you tonight. That's something I rarely do.

I noticed in the video that Barry Weber was the police chief back then. He was
also the police chief of Fort Dodge Iowa when I left that department, many years ago.
 
Sammy55

Sammy55

Veteran Member
I, too, remember. It seems like it was just a few years ago!!

Every time I see your name, I remember your loss and say a prayer for you. I remember how, in the midst of the tragic deaths of your children, that I was totally awed by how strong your faith in God was! How, even though you were in such deep sorrow and shock, you still knew God was holding you close. I remember wondering if I would be that strong if my children were violently taken from my life.

I'm sure you received a lot of support from us, your TB family. But I and others want you to know that we also have received support and encouragement from you, not only during your loss but throughout the years since.

(((Hugs and love))) to you during these days - and all days - of your remembrance. May God continue to uphold you, strengthen you, and bless your memories of happy days with your children. You are still in my prayers...every time I see your name.
 
bev

bev

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Praying for your peace and comfort at this time of year, and always.

I also want to thank you for posting the Toby Mac video. I’ve never listened to him, but wow, that song was powerful!
 
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