Repub Ted Cruz and his wife lived apart for the first 7 years of their marriage

[thompson]

This is an illuminating piece of information, IMO. He obviously put his goals and his desires ahead of his wife and family so he could establish himself as a professional politician despite the fact it hurt them.

http://theweek.com/speedreads/602452/ted-cruz-wife-lived-apart-first-7-years-marriage

Ted Cruz and his wife lived apart for the first 7 years of their marriage

January 29, 2016

It's a long way to the top if you want to be in politics. Ted Cruz and his wife, Heidi, learned that the hard way: For the first seven years of their marriage, they didn't live together full time so that Cruz could pursue his career in politics, The Washington Post reports.

The couple met in 2000, when they worked three cubicles apart for George W. Bush's campaign; after they got married, Cruz decided to take a job in Austin as Texas' solicitor general, moving 1,500 miles from Heidi, who stayed on at the Treasury Department in Washington. Eventually Heidi moved to Texas, but in order to get a job in banking, she had to live in Houston, not in Austin with Cruz. They would take turns making the three-hour drive to visit one another every weekend, but friends and family saw the move was hard on Heidi, who was without the support system she had in D.C.:

Heidi did not seek professional treatment and was able to function at work, [Heidi's mother Suzanne] Nelson said. But on one particularly worrisome night, while she was in Austin in August 2005, she wandered toward an expressway on-ramp, where she was found by an officer with her "head in her hands" and no car, according to a police account first reported by BuzzFeed. There was no car visible. The officer determined that Heidi was a "danger to herself."

The Cruz campaign did not make Heidi available for an interview, but Heidi told The Post in September that the move to Texas "really was for Ted, and I wasn't comfortable with that." [The Washington Post]
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Cruz moved to Houston in 2010, marking the first time in seven years the family was living full time together. When Cruz won a seat in the Senate, however, the long-distance relationship was launched anew. Once, when Cruz came home to Texas after a week in D.C., his older daughter ran to the door and exclaimed, "There's a guest in the house!"

The Cruzes, of course, are now eyeing a new place where they can be together — a nice little house at 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue. Read more in The Washington Post.

 

[Green Co.]

The headline implies that they had no relationships the first seven years, but the truth comes out in the story. They were together quite frequently, on weekends for sure, but successful people realize there will be sacrifices to advance a career, even in the blue collar world. Ask the many oil patch workers that moved to ND from Texas with their rig. They wanted to keep their good paying job, and have that chance at advancement.

Ask the many over the road truckers that are away from their families for weeks at a time. But they have that pride, in a job that supports their dependents.

And finally, what about our great servicemen & women? Most who have been (or will be) on deployment in places a family cannot accompany.

I Don't know that I would vote for Cruz, especially in light of his last email shenanigans, but truth should rule. This infraction, as deemed by the OP article, doesn't amount to a hill of beans to the voters.

 

[summerthyme]

The headline implies that they had no relationships the first seven years, but the truth comes out in the story. They were together quite frequently, on weekends for sure, but successful people realize there will be sacrifices to advance a career, even in the blue collar world. Ask the many oil patch workers that moved to ND from Texas with their rig. They wanted to keep their good paying job, and have that chance at advancement.

Ask the many over the road truckers that are away from their families for weeks at a time. But they have that pride, in a job that supports their dependents.

And finally, what about our great servicemen & women? Most who have been (or will be) on deployment in places a family cannot accompany.

I Don't know that I would vote for Cruz, especially in light of his last email shenanigans, but truth should rule. This infraction, as deemed by the OP article, doesn't amount to a hill of beans to the voters.

Gotta agree. I detest Cruz (my "gut feeling" that he was a slimeball seems to be getting proven by what's coming out lately) but this is normal in a certain professional echelon. And with the economy weakening, it's probably becoming MORE common.

And if it's true that "the Texas thing was all for Ted", and Heidi was truly unhappy, then did she communicate that to Ted? Spouses aren't necessarily mind readers. If it made her so unhappy, and she *didn't* say anything, then part of it is on her. If she did... and he ignored it (no way we'll ever know).. he's even a bigger, ambition-driven prick than I thought.. and that's rather significant!

Summerthyme

 

[thompson]

Green Co., ST, I hear you both and agree with you both, somewhat.

It's true, many occupations require extended time away from home and in fact, my husband and I endured such periods early in our marriage.

But on one particularly worrisome night, while she was in Austin in August 2005, she wandered toward an expressway on-ramp, where she was found by an officer with her "head in her hands" and no car, according to a police account first reported by BuzzFeed. There was no car visible. The officer determined that Heidi was a "danger to herself."

I find it difficult to believe that Heidi Cruz got to the point where she was wandering towards an expressway on-ramp without someone who was close to her not communicating her distress to her husband, if indeed she was suffering in silence and never said anything to him about her unhappiness. At the very least, the responding officer to this incident almost certainly notified him. Very few people get to a breaking point such as this without someone noticing that 'something' is very wrong.

This incident took place in 2005, yet Ted Cruz didn't move to Houston until 5 years later. I think that speaks volumes about what sort of person he is. Even if she got immediate help in 2005, why would he want to risk a recurrence, why would he want to continue to put her through this?

Just my old lady 2 cents.

 

[Green Co.]

Nancy, I understand your reasoning. But having lived the life apart thing (6 years Army, 17 years construction, 12 years trucking) I know from experience it's not always the man's fault/doing. I did, and know of several others that did, offer/want the wife to move to a new job location, but they didn't want to. Kids activities, her job, etc were the reasons in most cases. Most times, a move would have made financial sense, lessening the housing expenses.

So I still don't think we know the whole truth. It would have been better to have Mrs Cruz's story. As it is, it only paints one side. So I discard it in my search for a candidate... not that it makes much difference.

 

[Be Well]

DH was listening to a Michael Savage interview with Trump yesterday, and one of them, I think Savage, mentioned how Cruz' wife had been suicidal at some point. The point was not elaborated on, but was in connection with her affiliations with Goldman Sachs and some other things, that have not made it that much into the news.

IMHO Trump does not want to bring in wife stuff. Wise, unless someone attacks his wife first.