Pandemic My ex has just tested positive for covid

JF&P

Veteran Member
I just now saw this, JF&P! Glad you are home.

It was my understanding that your daughter (whom I have prayed about before) and her husband moved into YOUR home a while back. Is that correct? Sounds like I am as you said they moved out. I'll come right out and say it: I was uneasy (to put it mildly) when you mentioned they had moved in with you. :(

I'm so sorry you have these troubles. You remain in my prayers.
My best friend warned me when my daughter and her husband moved in....as he had spent time with them....he kept telling me....your daughter is "NUTS". Fortunately, they had just purchased a travel trailer and a new Ford Pick-up....so its not like they are homeless now. Please keep praying for Marilyn and Coleby.

My jail experience was not as bad as it could have been as when the deputies found out I am a former Marine and Air Guard they treated me with respect....I was probably the oldest guy in that jail...LOL

Words cannot begin to express my appreciation for TB2K.....and all of your prayers....
 
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JF&P

Veteran Member
You need to go no contact with your daughter. If you ever decide to restart the relationship, only in very public locations or with a chaperone.
The court order I was given when I was released specifys NO CONTACT and I will do that with or without a court order....I was warned when they moved in by my friends...but I had to give her a chance....and it came back and bit me in the ass....oh well.
 

Buick Electra

TB2K Girls with Guns
You need to do a new rendition of the 12 days of Christmas except have it be the 12 days in jail.

I've got the lyrics for the 12th day....

On the 12th day of jail my sheriff gave to me
a no contact bond and now I am free.

I can maybe help out with the first.....

On the first day of jail my sheriff gave to me
a cell that froze off my fanny

You'll have to fill in the rest of your experiences for days 2 through 11.
 

JMG91

Veteran Member
You need to do a new rendition of the 12 days of Christmas except have it be the 12 days in jail.

I've got the lyrics for the 12th day....

On the 12th day of jail my sheriff gave to me
a no contact bond and now I am free.

I can maybe help out with the first.....

On the first day of jail my sheriff gave to me
a cell that froze off my fanny

You'll have to fill in the rest of your experiences for days 2 through 11.
The word should be prison though--sounds more like Christmas! :whistle:
 

rob0126

Veteran Member
wow, this is what i get for not checking other forums.

prayers for you to recover from all that and for your daughter to be free from the spirits that manipulate and torment sra victims.

Let us know if you need anything.
 

JF&P

Veteran Member
I want to add an update here.....My best friend has been in contact with my daughter and her husband....and they said to tell me that they still love me and that they forgive me.....OMG.....I wept like a baby on hearing that. But I never expected to hear that....Let the healing for everyone begin. Thank You Lord!!! The rage I felt toward her is gone....now I can feel the sorrow for what I did.
 
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JF&P

Veteran Member
JF&P, you hang in there sir!
I am glad that your daughter and son-in-law reached out to you.
There is someone on this forum that I love DEARLY and respect who works as a councilor within the justice/COURT system for victims of violence that told me in a phone conversation I needed to get to point where I FEEL SORROW FOR WHAT I DID.....and now I feel overwhelmed with sorrow and guilt. The anger and rage I FELT TOWARD MY DAUGHTER IS GONE.
 
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Kathy in FL

TB Fanatic
There is someone on this forum that I love DEARLY and respect who works as a councilor within the justice/COURT system for victims of violence that told me in a phone conversation I needed to get to point where I FEEL SORROW FOR WHAT I DID.....and now I feel overwhelmed with sorrow and guilt. The anger and rage I FELT TOWARD MY DAUGHTER IS GONE.
This is a good thing but don't let it eat you up. 99.9% of the time there is fault on both sides. Some of your daughter's may not be under her control but if the husband is a caregiver he needs to rein her in better. She's going to find herself in a position that is wicked dangerous if she doesn't learn those skills.

You love her. Let that be enough. As she forgave you, forgive her. But toxic is toxic and you both may need some timeout to deal with what is going on. She didn't get broke overnight and you didn't get furious for no reason. Commit to the changes for your own sake but let her find her way via some other route than yourself this time. She needs to make that jump in her own healing and you need space to fully put your healing into effect.

Love ya Brother. Be sorry, but don't sacrifice yourself on the alter of her illness.
 

MinnesotaSmith

TB Fanatic
I just want to know if you put on a party hat when you found out your ex had caught the Coof. I would have, as it would rein in for a while the continuing threat she poses me.
 

Faroe

Un-spun
What Kathy said.
Furthermore, once someone starts bandying about with "forgiveness," I get suspicious.
Trust no one is my motto. Hasn't let me down yet.
 
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