PLAY Introverts vs Extroverts

raven

Veteran Member
extroverts think the dancing bird is the extrovert
Introverts knows the dancing bird is the introvert
. . . when he finally gets that extrovert alone
. . . . and can show off his smooth "Elvis" moves
. . . and of course the extrovert's response is "stay back you freak"
 

straightstreet

Life is better in flip flops
I'm an introvert, DH is an extrovert. He can talk to anyone about anything at anytime. We balance each other out :)
Introverts used to be called "shy". Or maybe that was just my mom who told everyone I was shy.
 

Meemur

Voice on the Prairie
I'm one of those who is perfectly happy at home! Constant contact with people wears me out. This problem is much worse now that I'm older. I certainly don't mind the occasional lunch or dinner with one or two people now and again but large crowds annoy me and drama llamas who want attention at 2 am have been given the boot (huge difference -- "stable" people have 2 am emergencies once in a blue moon, whereas drama llamas have them regularly)

I wouldn't do well in a hospital, so I've got to keep myself together enough to nurse what problems I can at home.
 

Hfcomms

EN66iq
For me personally I'm perfectly happy with the situation because as an introvert myself I really don't have to change my lifestyle very much. At work it's a solitary position with short interactions with others and as I'm a homebody I am very content when not at work to stay home as there are always projects to work on. And I usually only go to town once a week to hit the store and gas station anyway so for me I've had very little changes to my routine unlike so many others.

I know people who are the exact opposite and always have to be on the go and it drives them nuts to stay at home and have to be with their families all the time. They are having a lot different of an adjustment reaction than I am. There are benefits to being wired like this after all.....
 

Cardinal

Snark: a higher form of communication
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Introverts recharge their batteries by being alone.
Extroverts recharge their batteries by being with people.
You can have social Introverts and you can have shy Extroverts.

I am a social Introvert.
Since I am normally alone 90 % of the time, I'm annoyed at the quarantine taking away my 10% of socalizing.
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
Introverts recharge their batteries by being alone.
Extroverts recharge their batteries by being with people.
You can have social Introverts and you can have shy Extroverts.

I am a social Introvert.
Since I am normally alone 90 % of the time, I'm annoyed at the quarantine taking away my 10% of socalizing.
I can be a social introvert, like when I'm at church and I visit with people I know.
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
I know people who are the exact opposite and always have to be on the go and it drives them nuts to stay at home and have to be with their families all the time. They are having a lot different of an adjustment reaction than I am. There are benefits to being wired like this after all.....
You just described my sister in law, the woman cannot sit still for anything, reading makes her head hurt, as does anything dealing with math, and she talks non stop... my brother says she talks in her sleep. I've been wondering how she's dealing with the self isolating esp., since she lives in Illinois. I live in Iowa and our guvnah hasn't completely shut the state down yet.
 

Grouchy Granny

Senior Member
I'm with Packy….

After being around a large group of people I need lots of quiet time to recharge my batteries. I swear that some people are "emotional energy leeches" which drain them faster.

Altho I can fool people lots by acting like a complete extrovert when I have to. But now that I'm retired I don't have to put that mask on any more. What a relief.

And, the two who live with me - YS and YGK are driving me nutz!!!!!! It's like I have no quiet time at all until I go to bed.

At least the cats don't demand my attention all the time unless they're fighting over which side of mom they get to sleep by.
 

Orion Commander

Veteran Member
Been home for two weeks only going to the grocery store. Living with PW. We can leave each other alone for the most part. When she's cranky there's always the outside work, the garage, or the basement.

TV, radio, time bomb, or a book. Life's not so bad
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
I have to admit that the shelter-in-place/quarantine orders haven't altered my daily routine in the slightest.

That’s damn sad when you think about it....
Same here boss, the exception for me being I have lung issues which means I get a pass on grocery shopping, OC does the shopping if needed right now.
 

Cyclonemom

Veteran Member
So if you are a social introvert, do you actually enjoy the time you spend with people?

Or are you just fake enjoying the socialization as it is expected in that particular situation?

If all I can think of when being forced into social situations is "When are you going to shut up and go away", but pretend to be enjoying the interaction, is that social introversion, or just straight introversion?
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
So if you are a social introvert, do you actually enjoy the time you spend with people?

Or are you just fake enjoying the socialization as it is expected in that particular situation?

If all I can think of when being forced into social situations is "When are you going to shut up and go away", but pretend to be enjoying the interaction, is that social introversion, or just straight introversion?
It depends on who I’m with, I love it when we go to the American legion and my friends and his friends and coworkers are there, it’s about two or so hours of interacting for two maybe three times a year. Nothing fake, lots of silly stories and we all go h9me and meet up again later in the year.
 

Rucus Sunday

Veteran Member
I knew there would eventually be a thread about this. A couple days ago I said to DW that, as an introvert, to me this is all just business as usual. I do enjoy an occasional "social recharge," but not very often. If need be, I can go months like this. Poke fun if you like, we'll see how you fared on the other side.

So if you are a social introvert, do you actually enjoy the time you spend with people?

Or are you just fake enjoying the socialization as it is expected in that particular situation?
Depends on the circumstances and people involved. Generally, being around people I don't know but still expected to interact, especially if it involves interaction with shallow extroverts, I can forego that forever. If it's truly intellectually stimulating, then I'll usually enjoy it (though often after the fact). The bottom line is I enjoy my own company and don't need other people to validate who or what I am.
 

jazzy

Advocate Discernment
im a real introvert---very happy at home 90% of the time. when i have to be with others in a social setting that im usually uncomfortable with, im POLITE. being polite is not being fake, its having manners and being POLITE and resepcting others despite the differences. i dont have to enoy every setting or enoucnter, no one can, but we can be friendly and polite to every person.
 

Rucus Sunday

Veteran Member
As a Christian, however, I've learned (or, am learning) that it takes certain introverted characteristics to enjoy spending long amounts of time alone with God, but extroverted characteristics to share the gospel with others. Jesus was both. He needed time alone with the Father (usually in the early hours) in order to gain the strength to minister to the multitudes during the day.
 

Mary Contrary

Senior Member
I have to admit that the shelter-in-place/quarantine orders haven't altered my daily routine in the slightest.

That’s damn sad when you think about it....
Me too. I still go for rides to the store and get a drive thro meal, eat in my car, read a book, take a nap and then head home. Same thing i always did. Now i wear a mask outside and use the hand wipes. I don't use the hand gel cuz i read it only kills bacteria and not virus. So why then are people buying it?
 

Donald Shimoda

In Absentia
Howdy, Folks!

I have to admit that the shelter-in-place/quarantine orders haven't altered my daily routine in the slightest.

That’s damn sad when you think about it....
Only if you don't like your daily routine, Dennis.

I'm in the same boat, but I don't look at my particular situation as sad; I'm fine with my introverted daily routine.

I get the added bonus of having Missus Shimoda around 24/7. She's telecommuting, and we're both comfortable being together (she's very introverted as well - she just does better around others in social situations).

However, if she were not around - I'd be okay with it.

I have an elderly neighbor friend I'm not cooking for and visiting with as much, but we keep in touch over the phone.

Hey, you've got the pups! I'm sure they're delighted you're around more, and you enjoy their company.

[I miss my bunnies - Missus Shimoda doesn't want any more animals, so after they passed we didn't rescue any more.]

If your routine is getting you down, perhaps it's time to shake things up just a little bit (as it fits the current situation)...

Peace and Love,

Donald Shimoda
 

biere

Veteran Member
I have a very few friends. Took a bit when younger to learn people you are around are not always friends. I like the kind of friends who are either beside you in the jail cell or who you call for help burrying fertalizer. Good friends.

I used to somewhat go out more but it was just to interact with folks a tiny bit. Mainly we would get something to eat and chat and catch up. Can kinda do that with the phone, I am middle aged and especially older relatives are not fond of texting a ton.

The pups and cat are very helpful right now. Have interaction as well as some exercise.

I am rural but not super rural. Can go out in the yard and mow or weedeat or work on my junk or my junkier junk.

Basically this is giving me time to deal with clutter I should have dealt with for a decade or so. I may say I prep but I let clutter pile up in some cases.

I won't attend monster parties. I sometimes attend small gatherings but I also leave if I feel like leaving.

As far as dennis feeling sad nothing has changed, you live how you want to live I hope. Other than my clutter I hate dealing with, I live how I want to live. This is giving me time to organize a lot of stuff like tools and work on projects and since my trash gets hauled to the dump by me I can haul to the dump the junk.
 

summerthyme

Administrator
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Me too. I still go for rides to the store and get a drive thro meal, eat in my car, read a book, take a nap and then head home. Same thing i always did. Now i wear a mask outside and use the hand wipes. I don't use the hand gel cuz i read it only kills bacteria and not virus. So why then are people buying it?
You read wrong.

Summerthyme
 

WalknTrot

Veteran Member
Friends are a garden you tend all through your life. And it is so true that you first have to BE one to make one. I'm about as far over to the extreme as an INTJ can get, but still have a close-held treasure of LONG time personal friends. Gawd knows, you love family, but family members can be as different as night and day and often never really get you. Friends keep you sane!

The introvert thing? Yeah...stupid people wear me out - the world is packed to the gills with them - but they are also entertaining as hell. Fresh out of school and into the workplace, I learned teaching large groups, speaking to large groups, and playing the glad-handing, shmoozing. socializing game. It IS a game, (to an INTJ?) and in measured doses, can be WILDLY entertaining. Get me in a situation where I can teach or converse about a subject I am enthralled and well versed in? I can go on for hours. :) And yeah....then I have to literally crash and recharge for a couple of days.

Right now, beginning to miss my volunteer job and the people involved a bit, which is down for the count until this thing is over. Still keep in touch with the new crew at work, because I know I'm on the hook for back-up, keep in touch with my music peeps, looking forward to the day we can get to gether again, and talk to friends on the phone daily. But there is enough going on every day here at home to be more than absorbed and busy, have space to roam, air to breath and life is good.
 

patriotgal

Contributing Member
So if you are a social introvert, do you actually enjoy the time you spend with people?

Or are you just fake enjoying the socialization as it is expected in that particular situation?

If all I can think of when being forced into social situations is "When are you going to shut up and go away", but pretend to be enjoying the interaction, is that social introversion, or just straight introversion?
Work with public all day. Be nice all day, then run like hell when it is quitting time. Some nights it takes me until 2 or 3 am to unwind enough to go to bed. Then the alarm goes off and I do it again. Would love to be home right now but we are essential so will remain open as long as income coming in and situation doesn't get dire. First real cases here, I'm home.
 

jward

passin' thru
I SO identify with the introvert bird in this YouTube. :lol: :lol: :lol:

Extroverted cockatoo annoys introverted cockatoo
1:41

That was the BEST VIDEO EVER! :D Thanks for sharing <3

As to innie or outtie- I absolutely love people!!! Liking them, well, some times that is a bit beyond my skillset. Ditto tolerating their actual presence :eek:

There's just no telling what gear I'll be in on a given day, or how long I'll be in it. Makes life unpredictable, but,
the flip side of that is "never boring" lol. I have struggled some with SIP, I have moments of not tolerating a lot of
talk or stimulus, but I always need to see human eyes and feel human touch. I've already thrown a coat and boots
on over my nightgown and ran out to see a buddy- from a safe distance of course.
 

Freeholder

This too shall pass.
INTJ here, too. I’m perfectly happy staying home, though I do have my youngest daughter living with me. But you can’t really hold a conversation with her. When I do get someone to talk to, it’s nice, but it’s not necessary.

Kathleen
 
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