PRYR RQST FIL MIL - Elderly woes

[plantman]

My FIL went into the ER today - he's been having some mini-strokes. Par for course for him he's pretty frail but made a really great rally in the Spring - I thought nesting by all the projects he was doing. He went from bed ridden and a hoyer lift last Winter to being able to get himself out of bed and tool around on his wheel chair for hours. I suspect he's been under a great deal of stress because my MIL recently got a couple more co-morbidities with her CHF. She was the one who went shuffle shopping and brake checking people. (long story) MIL is in late stage CHF with swollen feet, extended belly, edema blisters but her mind is sharp as a tack. She's pretty much just able to shuffle off to the bathroom, and plop into her recliner. I'm thinking we're looking at short term care at best for both of them should a stiff breeze blow through their home.

I went through this 20 years ago with my folks, it's hard. Today my wife was uncharacteristically depressed, out of the blue, started crying. She never does that. It was right around the time he went to the ER.

Anyways, prayers if you could, for my FIL and MIL and my wife. Much thanks.

 

[Tennessee gal]

Praying for your wife’s parents and for the two of you. We cared for my husband’s parents and know how hard it is to watch them decline,.

 

[momma_soapmaker]

Prayers going up. I helped care for my mother through dementia, and my dad had CHF. It was one of the hardest times in my life. May God give you both strength and wisdom through the coming months.

 

[RB Martin]

Prayers sent for you all. Extra prayers sent for your missus.

 

[Dennis Olson]

How old are they?

 

[adgal]

I’m so sorry. Prayers sent.

 

[Panner]

Prayers have been said for them.

 

[beardog1]

Prayers for all of you

 

[dstraito]

Prayers for all

 

[Terrwyn]

Sorry to hear your news. Prayers from me also. They are lucky to have you both.

 

[coalcracker]

Praying

 

[SlipperySlope]

I am glad that they have a relative that cares about them. They are fortunate in that.

Add my prayers too.

 

[Nich1]

These kinds of things are so hard, plantman. And, yes, I know you know that. Sadly, we cannot avoid this, thanks to Adam and Eve. However, God's grace is sufficient...and I'm not being flippant. His strength will be the only thing to bring relief. If you know Him, lean on Him. And, I pray all of you know The One Who loves you most.

 

[fi103r]

Prayers Sent

 

[kyrsyan]

Prayers sent.

 

[Mrsmonty]

Prayers added

 

[et2]

As requested

 

[kenny1659]

Prayers sent.

 

[ParanoidNot]

Prayers sent.

 

[GenErik]

Many prayers said.

It's not easy to care for aging parents. I took care of my Grandparents (my Mom and Dad lived on the other side of the country at the time), my Mom and Dad, my dh, Erik's parents (actually Aunt/Uncle). It's difficult to do, I know.

Genny

 

[duchess47]

Prayers.

 

[sis1]

Sending prayers

 

[Kathy in WV]

Prayers from me also. Mentally and physically it's exhausting to go through. Especially if you are having your own health issues too. During the last couple years I can remember asking God to just help me through today. The next day I'd get up and pray to make it through that day. So on and so forth.

Getting good sleep/rest is crucial to making it through. God bless your family!

 

[hardrock]

Praying for you and your folks

 

[FireDance]

Prayers added for all concerned and for those who are going through this, and for those who have been through this and those who must travel this road in our stead.

 

[ktrapper]

Praying for all of you.

I took care of my mother through Alzheimers until she had to have 24 hour a day care that I could not provide. If I had it to do over again I would have looked for a place for her sooner. My kids last memories of her are from when she was at her worst mentally, taking her clothes off, messy, mean etc.

I had no idea what I was getting into but I was raised to take care of family so I did.

I made my kids promise to send me away if it happens to me. Then they can bring my grandkids to see me when I am cleaned up and acting nice.

 

[Redcat]

Prayers for you all.

 

[thompson]

Sending my prayers for all.

 

[anney]

Such a hard situation to be in. Praying for your family as you travel this road.

 

[babysteps]

Praying for all, sending extra love and hugs to your wife. It's so hard to see our parents failing. I was dad's caregiver for his final 18 months and have been mom's caregiver for almost 3 years now.

 

[Southside]

Prayers said for your family.

 

[plantman]

How old are they?

84/87

 

[Pinecone]

Prayers for you all.

 

[patriotgal]

Praying for all of you. MIL is now in a nursing home suffering from dementia and other issues that made it impossible for us to take care of her. It was an expected issue due to genetics but that doesn't make it any easier. Whatever each day brings do take time for yourselves and get as much rest as possible. It is an indescribably mentally and physically exhausting situation.

 

[Barry Natchitoches]

Prayers for your family, plantman

 

[CaryC]

Prayers here too.

Everyone on my dad's side has died from stroke, going back several generations. It's a DNA thing.

So I've been on several meds to try and prevent me from having one.

Saying that to show I understand what y'all are going through, and understand the need for prayer.

 

[Babs]

Praying for your family.

 

[jward]

I'm so sorry plantman, I've been there a dozen times now, myself, and it never gets any easier...but there is something to be said for the bonds that can only be forged by being tested by the times we walk the rough parts of the road with one another.
Prayers for your wife, and her parents, as well as all of you who're trying to support each other through this necessary, but bittersweet, phase of love/life.

 

[bamma]

Prayers for all the family.

 

[Chance]

Adding my prayers too.

Getting old sucks. But What sucks worse is watching your loved ones grow old...with all the nasty 'side effects'!

Praying for comfort for your wife. And prayers for her folks.