INSANITY Smart Women Don’t Send Nudes To Strangers, And Other Tales Of The Sexual Revolution

Bps1691

Veteran Member
In another example of just how morality has declined in this modern age, we now have this type of thing. Supposedly intelligent woman on a social site sending compromising photos and videos to what in reality is a perfect stranger to setup a homosexual get together.

In this case the article shows how a male pervert uses this willingness to provide sexual materials to try to trap them into having sex with him.

Just another sign of the times of just how stupid and perverted to many of our country's citizens have become....


Smart Women Don’t Send Nudes To Strangers, And Other Tales Of The Sexual Revolution

The pornographication of America's culture prevents victims from thinking clearly. Sadly, behavior once labeled bizarre or self-destructive is now common.

Police say Michael Cooper of Germantown, Maryland, approached women on social media and dating apps under the pseudonym “Rebecca Lattimore.” Through online conversations, Cooper would “slowly coax them to send nude photos and videos,” according to a recent article in the Washington Post.
Following this, he’d disclose the truth, that he was “actually a dude,” and demand the women have sex with him or he would send their compromising media to pornography sites, family members of the women, friends, and co-workers. That’s just the beginning of this bizarre story. Ultimately, it’s sadly emblematic of an American culture that has normalized hyper-sexuality to the point that it is now ravaging our society.

When last week investigators in Montgomery County charged Cooper with “threatening to inflict emotional distress” to obtain sex, it was the third time they had charged him with that exact offense in less than two weeks. “He keeps doing the same thing,” prosecutor George Simms declared in Montgomery County District Court. Judge John Moffett ordered Cooper to remain in custody with no option for posting bond. “I’m going to hold him until we get to the bottom of the case and find out what’s going on,” the judge ordered. Cooper’s attorney suggested he “may need mental health treatment.”
It gets worse. Several of the targeted women were heterosexual. Two persuaded their boyfriends to intervene. One of those boyfriends agreed, confronting Cooper in a parking lot, pinning him to the ground and threatening: “Give me one reason why I shouldn’t mess you up.”
In response to the fact that his girlfriend had sent nude photos of herself to a stranger, the boyfriend acknowledged, “It happened. … It was what it was. But no one deserves to be exploited like that.” Only two weeks later, Cooper was confronted by a different boyfriend, who detained the 22-year-old extortionist until police arrived.
In one of the cases (there are at least four, according to authorities), the photos Cooper elicited from the women ended up on a porn website. According to detective Joshua Locke, Cooper targeted “smart, professional women he didn’t know.” One woman, a 29-year-old corporate sales trainer, started communicating over Instagram and Snapchat with “Rebecca Lattimore” on June 13. The very next day, as well as again two days later, the woman sent sexually explicit photos and videos of herself to Cooper’s Instagram and Snapchat accounts.

Obviously, Cooper is an odious criminal who should be punished. But such deviants have always existed in the nether regions of our society. Before the internet, they frequented the seedy parts of town near pornography shops and “adult” cinemas; they would walk around in trench coats and flash innocent folks passing by. Now, thanks to the anonymity of technology, they are more capable of fabricating identities.
Another bizarre and concerning thing about this episode is how the Post presents Cooper’s victims as ordinary, intelligent, and “professional.” It says something about our culture that heterosexual women — with boyfriends, no less — who get involved with female strangers on dating apps are labeled “ordinary.” It says something about our culture that women who send nude media of themselves to strangers — in at least one case, the day after the online “relationship” began — are supposedly “intelligent.”
It also appears our culture is so saturated in pornography that activities once considered rare, immoral, obscene, and stupid are now condoned, if not celebrated. “Fifty Shades of Grey” normalized bondage, domination, and sado-masochism. Television and movies bring all manner of once-obscure sexual fetishes into American homes. Smartphones make the most obscene pornography accessible to us anywhere; they’ve become, as columnist and scholar Chad Pecknold puts it, a “red-light district in everyone’s pocket.”
Whatever one thinks of the morality of pornography, the results of this cultural and sexual transformation have been horrendous. In the United States, between 5 to 8 percent of the adult population is either addicted to pornography or engages in problematic porn use. Almost one-third of males between ages 18 and 30 use it daily, and the average age of first exposure is 11 years old. One website recently featured an advertisement urging kids to use their site when their parents leave the house.

Pornography’s effects on the brain are similar to that of compulsive drug use. More than half of divorce proceedings cite an “obsessive interest” in pornography. Porn fosters physically aggressive forms of sexual behavior — one study showed that almost 90 percent of porn videos depict physical aggression.
It would be naive to think that the pornographication of our culture is not at play in the story of the creep Cooper and his female victims. The lust and sexual addiction it fosters leads people to do evil and stupid things.
Even the supposedly happy, wildly successful, and fabulously wealthy aren’t immune; just consider former Democrat Rep. Anthony Weiner, Charlie Sheen, and Tiger Woods. Or, consider the biblical examples of David’s affair with Bathsheba (resulting in the murder of one of the king’s most trusted soldiers) or King Herod’s decision to behead John the Baptist after Herod watched his daughter-in-law perform a seductive dance. Obsessive sexual behavior also seems intimately linked with murder and other evils.
“Lust is forever threatening to stifle virility as well as intelligence. Impatient to create, it can only contaminate in the germ the frail promise of humanity; it is probably at the very source, the primary cause of all human blemishes,” writes George Bernanos in his novel The Diary of a Country Priest. “Impurity does not destroy this knowledge, it slays our need of it. … You no longer wish to know yourself. … You no longer want to possess yourself.”

The pornographication of American culture incited Cooper’s exploitative behavior; it also deadened the ability of his victims to think clearly. We can conclude the Washington Post fails to acknowledge this because such behaviors — widely considered bizarre, foolish, and self-destructive only a generation ago — are now, sadly, so very common.
Casey Chalk is a columnist for The American Conservative, Crisis Magazine, and The New Oxford Review. He has a bachelors in history and masters in teaching from the University of Virginia, and masters in theology from Christendom College.
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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Obviously, Cooper is an odious criminal who should be punished.
Why? The women were adults and sent him the images voluntarily. They were free to “just say no” to the sexual demands. (Evidently they did just that.) Even if they had sex with him, what law is being broken? Blackmail? He doesn’t want their money. Extortion? Same deal.

While I personally abhor what he did, I’m struggling to find an applicable law. By way of contrast, the jackasses who video up women’s skirts ARE breaking the law. Those victims have a legal “expectation of privacy” under their clothes. These morons sexting this guy did not.
 

DazedandConfused

Veteran Member
Back a few years ago when I started dating again after my wife passed, I was surprised at the number of nude pics I was sent. Not just a full frontal view but up close and personal views ..:shk: Nice church going lady's in the 50's age range.
Sure it was a nice little surprise to look at but a total turn off when looking for the right gal for me.
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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Think of the people that blackmail and extort things or favors from politicians. That is illegal as well.
The reason that’s illegal is because politicians control money and laws. Big difference. I can see it for someone trying it with anyone in a position of power over the blackmailer. That is, school principal, college dean, politician, corporate head, etc., IF the person doing the blackmailing could have their “position” enhanced (better grades, promotion and the like.) But these women were not in such a position. They were just horny and stupid.
 

jward

passin' thru
I'm so naive that when I first got online, back in the stone age, some perv tracked new sign ups to AOL and sent pics- and poor lil miss guillable me felt violated and wondered what I could have possibly done to bring that on :: shake head :: I really do need a keeper LOL.

On the other hand, I just sent a an email that said "topless pic" don't open at work. . .but it was a baby boy at his 1st birthday party - and ya, I do think that was funny :jstr:
 

hunybee

Veteran Member
Again, they chose to send the pictures. That is not the issue. The issue is him using said pictures to extort or blackmail sex from them.

They were very stupid to send them. No doubt about that.
 

MinnesotaSmith

Membership Revoked
Hey, sexting is a thing. Ban smartphones why doncha.

Not likely to be widely accepted IMO.

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Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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MS, that meme is "fake news" (so to speak) and you know it. Smartphones got bigger because more and more people wanted to do "real work" on them. (Personally, I find that impossible.) Smartphone manufacturers tried to satisfy that desire with "phablets."
 

MinnesotaSmith

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Important point not being directly addressed: if the women this guy targeted had been either A) loyal to their committed relationships, or B) had avoided flirting with homosexual activity, they would never have been entrapped by him. Loyal straight chicks were never one bit vulnerable to his scheme.
 
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MinnesotaSmith

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MS, that meme is "fake news" (so to speak) and you know it. Smartphones got bigger because more and more people wanted to do "real work" on them. (Personally, I find that impossible.) Smartphone manufacturers tried to satisfy that desire with "phablets."

It's at least a genuine coincidence, you have to grant that.
 

PghPanther

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Porn is the most searched for item on the internet.While many consider it harmless,it has destroyed more marriages and otherwise destroyed more lives than all the other drugs combined.I consider it something to be avoided with the same vigor as a bed of rattlesnakes.

Pornography seems to be a portal and then slide into an abyss of self gratification through destroying the character of the person...................its a slippery slope that pulls the same curiosity as we experienced as children growing up...

A person might start out viewing things that they figure are very conventional...........then by "curiosity" looking at more alternative or abusive/deviancy..........like forbidden cookies in the jar they keep dipping their hands into..........then over time it starts to lose its shock and forbidden status and the viewer then dives into further alternative or abusive/deviancy to get the thrill or sense of something they normally think would be a problem becomes exciting and that slide just keeps going.....

Take for instance a middle age man........starts looking at very convention stuff and then say they like some of the younger looking women.............so they think .........younger girls are interesting and the search some more video in that area and push to look a more younger and younger women all the while getting bored with the prior searches over time and before you know it there are pedophilia tendencies developing in that person..............No good outcome can come of that kind of behavior.

In many ways its like any other mind altering vices that over time destroy the value of their humanity......... where this one alters sexuality to the point of being on a heroine like fix while attempting to get an even strong experience for the ever increasing purposeless search for more self gratification.

Their is an agenda behind some of the most powerful people in pornography and its goal is not one that would leave you a better or more fulfilled person from participating in it.
 

MinnesotaSmith

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Pornography seems to be a portal and then slide into an abyss of self gratification through destroying the character of the person...................its a slippery slope that pulls the same curiosity as we experienced as children growing up...

Or, it's what a good guy trapped in a wrongly deadbedded marriage does out of desperation, when neither granted the gift of being able to be celibate longterm, nor free to go find another woman for sex without horrific consequences (secular and/or theological). Remember, there is not one guy who (to put it graphically) during sex abruptly pulls out midstroke to go watch porn. Too, not very many guys feel much need to go watch some if they've had their socks blown off by their partner within the last two hours. Unless it's a real perversion (pedo, bestiality, homo, snuff, etc.), it's more likely than not that if you scratch a guy in a relationship or marriage who still regularly watches porn, he's almost certainly got a partner that isn't stepping up sexually WRT his needs (positions, acts, frequency, enthusiasm, keeping the BS to a minimum that's needed for her to go along with having sex, etc.).
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
Back a few years ago when I started dating again after my wife passed, I was surprised at the number of nude pics I was sent. Not just a full frontal view but up close and personal views ..:shk: Nice church going lady's in the 50's age range.
Sure it was a nice little surprise to look at but a total turn off when looking for the right gal for me.

I have quite a few friends who, in the past three years, became single through no fault of their own... they're widows/widowers or hubby left her for another dude. And the first thing I tell them is DO NOT send nudes to someone w/o clearing it with them first if it is okay!

Hell even a 67 year old friend was all too eager to send cock shots to a potential girlfriend.... NO, NO, NO!!! Don't do that, first of all they both work in the same school district so it could be construed as sexual harassment, and second NO, just say NO!
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
Pornography seems to be a portal and then slide into an abyss of self gratification through destroying the character of the person...................its a slippery slope that pulls the same curiosity as we experienced as children growing up...

A person might start out viewing things that they figure are very conventional...........then by "curiosity" looking at more alternative or abusive/deviancy..........like forbidden cookies in the jar they keep dipping their hands into..........then over time it starts to lose its shock and forbidden status and the viewer then dives into further alternative or abusive/deviancy to get the thrill or sense of something they normally think would be a problem becomes exciting and that slide just keeps going.....

Take for instance a middle age man........starts looking at very convention stuff and then say they like some of the younger looking women.............so they think .........younger girls are interesting and the search some more video in that area and push to look a more younger and younger women all the while getting bored with the prior searches over time and before you know it there are pedophilia tendencies developing in that person..............No good outcome can come of that kind of behavior.

In many ways its like any other mind altering vices that over time destroy the value of their humanity......... where this one alters sexuality to the point of being on a heroine like fix while attempting to get an even strong experience for the ever increasing purposeless search for more self gratification.

Their is an agenda behind some of the most powerful people in pornography and its goal is not one that would leave you a better or more fulfilled person from participating in it.

And some of us find pornography to be boring... the whys of what attracts people to it, now that's another thing altogether and worthy of study and white papers.
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
The reason it was said that he was an odious criminal was not because these women gave up nudes to him. It was because he used them as extortion or blackmail to get sex with him out of it. That is the issue. The criminal issue. Stupidity aside.

While I tend to agree with you, your argument wouldn't hold water in a court of law. Rest in this, he'll pay for this one on judgement day!
 

Bps1691

Veteran Member
Or, it's what a good guy trapped in a wrongly deadbedded marriage does out of desperation, when neither granted the gift of being able to be celibate longterm, nor free to go find another woman for sex without horrific consequences (secular and/or theological). Remember, there is not one guy who (to put it graphically) during sex abruptly pulls out midstroke to go watch porn. Too, not very many guys feel much need to go watch some if they've had their socks blown off by their partner within the last two hours. Unless it's a real perversion (pedo, bestiality, homo, snuff, etc.), it's more likely than not that if you scratch a guy in a relationship or marriage who still regularly watches porn, he's almost certainly got a partner that isn't stepping up sexually WRT his needs (positions, acts, frequency, enthusiasm, keeping the BS to a minimum that's needed for her to go along with having sex, etc.).

Most sex therapists agree that having sex less than 10 times a year is reason enough to label your marriage a sexless one.

Sex therapist answers 5 common questions about sexless marriages

he U.S. National Health and Social Life Survey defined a sexless marriage as “couples who aren’t engaging in sexual activity or are having minimal sexual encounters.” There is a surprising lack of research into the subject, but according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University, an estimated 15% of married couples have not had sex in the last six months to one year.

Leading causes
There are many reasons why a marriage can become sexless. Mismatched sexual libidos, lack of communication, childbirth, antidepressants, hypo-sexual desire disorder (low sex drive), a history of sexual abuse, porn addiction, grief, vaginal dryness as a result of menopause, body image, financial problems and erectile dysfunction, to name a few. Whatever the root cause, there are solutions to all of these issues if both parties are committed to tackling them.

And sexless marriages aren’t always a problem. Everyone’s definition of a “normal” sex life varies, and if a sexless marriage works for your relationship, there’s no need to change it up.

However, if this is an issue you’re struggling with, there are solutions. Considerable spoke with Sari Cooper, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and Director of Center for Love and Sex, to answer the most common questions around sexless marriage.


1. How do I know if I’m in a sexless marriage? Is there a “normal” amount of sex to have?
Some researchers define a sexless relationship as one in which there has been no sexual activity for the past year. However, other studies define sexlessness as having fewer than 10 sexual encounters in the last year.

When discussing sexuality, one has to do away with the term normal as there is a lot of self-judgement and shame involved. Researchers use the scientific term average to designate statistics to the population they’re studying.

2. How do I start a dialogue about our sex life after a significant amount of time without sex?
It’s best to let your partner know you’d like to talk about your sex life, and inquire as to when a good time might be. This way you’re not springing it on them, and you each have time to think about what you’d like to say.



3. We both want to have sex, but I feel like too much time has passed and we can’t seem to make the move. How we can start to regain some intimacy?
At Center for Love and Sex, we offer warm-up exercises for couples to regain physical connection after long periods of celibacy. They may include Tantra-like exercises of eye-gazing, erotic massage or flirtation games to break the ice.

The couple does these exercises on their own at home and then returns to a couples’ session to discuss their reactions and what turned them on so as to build momentum.

4. Since menopause I haven’t wanted to have sex. Is this common, and is there a way to restore my libido?
According to studies, low desire is reported in 12% of midlife women (ages 45 to 64) and 7% among women 65 or older. About one-third of women who report low libido also express distress about this occurrence. Because your body has lower hormone levels after menopause, your mind isn’t receiving the same physical arousal sensations which in the past would “ping” your mind to think about sex. In addition, the vaginal tissue has thinned out and many women report more discomfort or outright pain when attempting penetrative vaginal sex.



Libido is a complex mixture of biological, psychological and relational variables. Thus, restoring one’s libido requires doing a thorough assessment. It may include physical treatments like hormonal creams or pelvic physical therapy to alleviate pain. Depending on how well your relationship with a partner is, one might seek out a sex therapist trained in integrating couples counseling skills with menopausal concerns.

The other critical ingredient may include creating a new tool-kit that re-ignites erotic thoughts and fantasies, so you’re actually getting your mind back into thinking about sexuality. Much like the old adage “out of sight, out of mind,” the new theme for women who have lost their mojo should be “out of mind, out of desire.”

Your mind can be put to great use to re-nourish a confidence and ability that I’ve coined as Sex Esteem®. I run Sex Esteem® groups for women and men of different ages to help them discuss some of these challenging issues, and to learn new skills in developing innovative paths to erotic desire.



5. If sex is off the table, do you recommend proposing the idea of an open marriage?
Before introducing the prospect of an open marriage, I suggest you and your significant other go to see an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist. By telling your partner you love them, but aren’t willing to give up partner sex, they may agree to do a deeper dive into what is contributing to their disinterest and whether there are any options to re-opening a sexual relationship again.

If one’s partner is very sure they are no longer interested in partner sex, you can recommend they read this article and discuss how couples establish expectations when creating an open relationship.

There are relationships in which only one partner sees other people outside the relationship. They may see this other person an agreed upon number of days or on a specific day of the week, so they can still invest time and energy into their primary partner. The couple may agree that their shared home is off limits to an outside partner, or that the outside partner shouldn’t be in their social circle.

Case Study
See also
Considerable spoke with a man in his mid 60s (who wishes to remain anonymous) about his experience in a sexless marriage that ended in divorce. He met his wife in the mid 1980s when they were working in the same field and began dating. After a fairly long engagement, they married in the early 2000s. He said their sexless marriage lasted for 12 years.

Did you discuss sex with your wife?
I did not discuss it because I couldn’t believe she was unaware of it, but also we rarely talked about how we felt. We both hated confrontation.

How did the sexless marriage end?
We became more and more distant, never doing anything together and then practically never speaking to one another. I never intended to go looking for sex outside of the marriage, but I met someone remarkable and charismatic by sheer accident and began having an affair. This led to me asking for a divorce.

When you look back now, is there anything you would have done differently?
In retrospect, I obviously should have voiced my feelings of anger and disappointment after the first 6 months of not having sex. I foolishly thought she could read my mind when it came to what I was missing and needing. All it did was let my contempt fester and grow for years and years.

* * *

Though a sexless marriage can be a challenge, it need not mean the end. To locate a therapist who may be able to assist you, take a look at the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.

 

raven

TB Fanatic
long time ago there was a joke.
Guy sees a cute woman in a bar.
Walks up and says "Would you have sex with me for a million bucks"
She says "Absolutely"
Then he says "Would you have sex with me for twenty bucks"
She says "Hell no. Do you think I'm a whore?"
He says "We;ve already established that. Now we are haggling over the price"
 

Dennis Olson

Chief Curmudgeon
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The reason it was said that he was an odious criminal was not because these women gave up nudes to him. It was because he used them as extortion or blackmail to get sex with him out of it. That is the issue. The criminal issue. Stupidity aside.
STUPIDITY is what fosters crime (ever hear of "confidence men"?) Criminals depend on the stupidity and gullibility of their victims. The women were at fault for getting involved with him in the first place. He was at fault for taking advantage of that.
 
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hunybee

Veteran Member
While I tend to agree with you, your argument wouldn't hold water in a court of law. Rest in this, he'll pay for this one on judgement day!


Now, this is for Arkansas, but go look under sexual extortion

 

DazedandConfused

Veteran Member
I quit going to church because of things I witnessed there. I was in a mixed adult Sunday school class and had one lady shoot me the beaver along with a wink and a smile multi able times. The single females all but throw themselves at you.
They turned Church into a meat market. I'll not be a part of it
 

hunybee

Veteran Member
STUPIDITY is what fosters crime (ever hear of "confidence men"?) Criminals depend on the stupidity and gullibility of their victims. Them women were at fault for getting involved with him in the first place. He was at fault for taking advantage of that.


I'm not sure then what your disagreement with me is as that exactly what I have been saying
 

MinnesotaSmith

Membership Revoked
I quit going to church because of things I witnessed there. I was in a mixed adult Sunday school class and had one lady shoot me the beaver along with a wink and a smile multi able times. The single females all but throw themselves at you.
They turned Church into a meat market. I'll not be a part of it

The PUA forums' term for that is "Sunday Morning Nightclub". Normally, only the hottest alpha males can ever get tickets, so count yourself lucky.
 
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PghPanther

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Back a few years ago when I started dating again after my wife passed, I was surprised at the number of nude pics I was sent. Not just a full frontal view but up close and personal views ..:shk: Nice church going lady's in the 50's age range.
Sure it was a nice little surprise to look at but a total turn off when looking for the right gal for me.

So was this from responses in dating sites you found this?....................or if they were nice going church ladies did you meet them in church and then they sent them to you at a later day?

That's crazy.............I'd think in the 50's after having been through a lot in regards to relationships that a person would first seek a companionship before anything.....

I wonder with all this hook up mentality......doesn't anyone worry about communicable strains of diseases that may be resistant to treatment anymore?
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
I wonder with all this hook up mentality......doesn't anyone worry about communicable strains of diseases that may be resistant to treatment anymore?

Apparently not and it's terrifying the number of people that have STD's these days, permanent ones like HPV/Warts, Herpes, etc.
 

PghPanther

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Intimacy is best expressed from the love one has for another but neither requires out of self fulfillment but rather in the act of giving to the other.

I was never more in love with my Lori over our time together then when she was incapable from ALS of any intimacy other than just being able to just kiss her on the lips.........I knew that when she told me the desire in her heart to be with me that way (even though she was incapable of it) made my cup runneth over with joy knowing that resided in her mind for me.

If you are fortunate to find passionate unconditional love ....... sex will never become a yoke to what life's journey has for the two of your..............
 
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