Hey you- I know you state this feels like family, but don't forget "your family" has many closeted-in-sheeps-clothing-commie-red-libs, and "uncle bobs" as well as any # o' lookie loos who might wander in. . .
As you remind us, they really do want to kill us, but they are happy to start by reporting comments like those in the OP, and in todays climate, that can be a danger to you, and those precious pups of ours I mean, yours. : ((
Having said that, no one with an entact spine or moral compass can possibly get thru the days without their BP shooting into stroke lvl territory, for real. :: raises hand as proof ::
We can't change the plates in our personal lives, or that nasty pig trough they're serving up in the public sectre, but we CAN add to the other side of the equation- increase our coping mechanisms, whittle away our crutches, get leaner, meaner, and in fighting condition- - -
Move daily, pray in your times of sorrow, and those of joy, love fearlessly and unconditionally, and do more each day than the one before- and, if anyone finds the stress coming out sideways, and they're spending, sexing, eating, drinking, drugging, sabotaging relationships, being abusive or abused inappropriately, now is the time to work on those issues, coz it only gets harder n hairier from here on out.
Remember too, we've read that book, know how it ends, and that these are only the messy middle chapters we have to wade through to get to the good part.