bracketquant
Veteran Member
It's threads like this that I miss Minnesota Smith's total lack of insight.
OT/MISC The REAL reason older men proposition later life women - and no it ISN'T because they think you're sexy
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Tweakette
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I have been concerned about this kind of thing with my mother since my father died 11 years ago. She isn't rich but my father left her comfortable, and up until recently has been in very good health. She is also tall, thin, and looks good for her age (now 87).
She's a narcissist though, and is an utter glutton for compliments. Even her medical appointments are torture as she fishes for compliments with the medical staff and it sucks up so much time you can barely talk about the legitimate medical issues. She also doesn't have a lot of common sense sometimes.
Sister and I have been very worried that someone will come along and stroke that ego and clean her out. So far it hasn't happened but it is something we have been really wary about. If she gets cleaned neither of us can take care of her, either financially or physically (not to mention that our husbands would likely leave us because of her incessant talking and toxic behavior).
Now she has metastatic ovarian cancer so it likely won't .
My friends mother, very similar to my own mother, DID remarry and he is a gold digger. This woman was pretty well off. He refused a prenup despite my friend and her siblings trying to protect her with one, he forced her to retitle the house into his name, and he tries to cut the womans family out of her life. Its a bad situation and both angers my friend and breaks her heart.
And now he has turned abusive. My friends mother talked to a lawyer but due to the lack of initial protection in the marriage, length of the marriage, and other legal factor she is going to lose a LOT if they divorce and he is planning on making it really ugly. Plus she doesn't want to be "alone" and so stays with him.
He has had a few heart attacks already so my friend just brings him junk food all the time as a "gift" . lol.
Frankly, many women are idiots.
She's a narcissist though, and is an utter glutton for compliments. Even her medical appointments are torture as she fishes for compliments with the medical staff and it sucks up so much time you can barely talk about the legitimate medical issues. She also doesn't have a lot of common sense sometimes.
Sister and I have been very worried that someone will come along and stroke that ego and clean her out. So far it hasn't happened but it is something we have been really wary about. If she gets cleaned neither of us can take care of her, either financially or physically (not to mention that our husbands would likely leave us because of her incessant talking and toxic behavior).
Now she has metastatic ovarian cancer so it likely won't .
My friends mother, very similar to my own mother, DID remarry and he is a gold digger. This woman was pretty well off. He refused a prenup despite my friend and her siblings trying to protect her with one, he forced her to retitle the house into his name, and he tries to cut the womans family out of her life. Its a bad situation and both angers my friend and breaks her heart.
And now he has turned abusive. My friends mother talked to a lawyer but due to the lack of initial protection in the marriage, length of the marriage, and other legal factor she is going to lose a LOT if they divorce and he is planning on making it really ugly. Plus she doesn't want to be "alone" and so stays with him.
He has had a few heart attacks already so my friend just brings him junk food all the time as a "gift" . lol.
Frankly, many women are idiots.
Bad Hand
Veteran Member
IDdMy wife died 7 years ago this June. I met someone one on one of the forums I was on. We were both into the same things I don't have any money. What I do have is skills and friends. One of my friends wanted me to move to his area he was going to remodel a the way we wanted it. He wanted me to start a school teaching Primitive crafts and skills plus the local farmers wanted me to trap beaver and coyotes which they would pay me to do. The house also has 5 acres and a duck pond. The problem was that before she could move here she died. Then a freind I had known for 25 years she died. I am not looking for a rich widow what I want is an intelligent woman who would like living in a Tipi when I go to teach at primitive gatherings. It is like getting paid to go on vacation. I know the chances of me meeting someone like this are a million to one.
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Doc1
Has No Life - Lives on TB
JeanCat, I appreciate your humor, but the mechanic-sex-relationship thing is very real with some women. The vast majority of gals have little to no mechanical skills or aptitude and - unless they are well off - can find themselves in crisis mode when their car dies.
I worked as a mechanic in my late teens and have retained those skills. Many times in those days women would kind of make it clear that they were willing to throw a little leg over if I could help them with their car. Actually, I rarely took advantage of these overtures for a number of reasons; I was very attractive in my youth (as opposed to the ugly old phart I've matured in to ;-) and had women chasing me. I didn't really need or want to swap mechanical repairs for getting laid. The candle wasn't worth the game.
Sometimes, if the gal was attractive, nice, classy and didn't overtly offer sex, I might help and have that turn into something more.
Now I did help any number of gals - including older and/or unattractive women - just to be nice, but I never really did the quid pro quo thing for sex. It really just wasn't my style, but I knew mechanics who did sometimes. Usually these were guys who, shall we say, had more limited options.
As the economy continues its downward trajectory, you will see more and more women offering themselves in one way or another for services or products they desperately need. These could be home repairs, rent, or anything else of value. These women aren't going to admit - even to themselves - that it's a form of prostitution, but, stripping away the facades and niceties it often is.
This is nothing new and the same game has been played for thousands of years.
The US hasn't really seen hard times yet and things could get so much worse than they are now. In fact, I think it's baked into the cake that a massive depression is peeking just over the horizon. When it arrives you can be sure that millions of people - both men and women - will engage in behaviors they'd never previously imagined.
Best
Doc
Dang!!!! Screen clean!!!!!
Cyclonemom
Veteran Member
I think I've learned more in this thread than I thought was possible.
Eep.
Eep.
Wildweasel
F-4 Phantoms Phorever
You failed to post the Loofah color code info. Inquiring minds want to know. I might have time to ride over there before we leave Florida...
and laugh at what people are advertising about themselves.
Wildweasel
F-4 Phantoms Phorever
What message does it send when you only buy canned pineapple?
nomifyle
TB Fanatic
After I moved to the woods this man at church asked me if I could cook, I said no and I don't clean either, he never said another word to me. I've been around for a long time, back in the 60's when men could make passes at you and worse. the young women of today have no clue what things were like. But then many young women today are nuts.
bracketquant
Veteran Member
Keep the can right side up in the cart, or not (at your own peril)?
Ractivist
Pride comes before the fall.....Pride month ended.
Not here. Odds be much better.
ShadowMan
Designated Grumpy Old Fart
My younger brother and I went through my mother's training called "Bachelor Survival Training". Her reasoning was "Needing to be taken care of is no reason to get married!" We had to learn how to plan a meal, shop the meal...USING coupons, clean up afterwards - PROPERLY. Clean a house, clean a bathroom, wash clothes, mend clothes, sew, knit, iron, fold clothes and how to keep a clean house on a daily business. We were taught how to grow our own food....how to can, dry, and preserve the harvest. When we had a baby sister I was in the forth grade. We had to learn how to change a diaper...a real cloth diaper, clean it in the toilet and when wash and fold them. How to feed a baby, make up a bottle, etc, etc., etc., so when I had my own kids it was a no brainer.
After joining the navy, we were expected to maintain a clean and smart uniform, grooming and hair within reg's. Keep a clean and well maintain ship. SHIPSHAPE!! As a Hospital Corpsman we were trained how to properly clean a medical space, an operating room to as close to sterile standards are possible. How to clean a wound, suture, dress wounds, conduct routine sick call, man an ambulance, EMT, cast fractures, inspect health and sanitation requirements, inspect food handlers and mess halls, field sanitation, basic and advance first aid. Combat Casualty handling, and patient evacuation, etc., etc., and everything regarding operating with Marines in the field and in combat. I think my DW got a good deal.....just saying.
Personally, I don't have much respect for any man that can't take care of himself, his wife or his kids.....or needs a women to take care of him.....and VICE VERSA!! Marriage should be a TEAM EVENT. Both men and women should work together, know how to cook and clean and take care of each other and their personal and family needs.
I'm amazed at how many young people today can't spin a wrench, hammer a nail, have no idea what's under the hood of a vehicle. Cooking......NOT A CLUE!! Easier to eat out. SAD....VERY SAD!!
After joining the navy, we were expected to maintain a clean and smart uniform, grooming and hair within reg's. Keep a clean and well maintain ship. SHIPSHAPE!! As a Hospital Corpsman we were trained how to properly clean a medical space, an operating room to as close to sterile standards are possible. How to clean a wound, suture, dress wounds, conduct routine sick call, man an ambulance, EMT, cast fractures, inspect health and sanitation requirements, inspect food handlers and mess halls, field sanitation, basic and advance first aid. Combat Casualty handling, and patient evacuation, etc., etc., and everything regarding operating with Marines in the field and in combat. I think my DW got a good deal.....just saying.
Personally, I don't have much respect for any man that can't take care of himself, his wife or his kids.....or needs a women to take care of him.....and VICE VERSA!! Marriage should be a TEAM EVENT. Both men and women should work together, know how to cook and clean and take care of each other and their personal and family needs.
I'm amazed at how many young people today can't spin a wrench, hammer a nail, have no idea what's under the hood of a vehicle. Cooking......NOT A CLUE!! Easier to eat out. SAD....VERY SAD!!
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medic38572
TB Fanatic
I have learned more than I needed to know. I know to run when I see upside-down pineapples or the rainbow of loofahs.
I did not know grocery shopping was such a perilous activity. I will be more careful now!!
homecanner1
Veteran Member
By special request. Its embedded in an image up thread but very tiny.
We are not picking on The Villages residents. That Eisenhower Rec Center is gorgeous. And 95 percent or more of the folks are in committed relationships. Part of its snowbirds and part of it is the lifestyle people who engage in it. The code is nationwide not just local. So keep eyes peeled for silly bath sponges flying loose. Or the zany chick at the boutique wearing homemade tiny sponge earrings and a pineapple ring necklace.
Just the silly thread we needed!
So keep it clean McQueen. Squeaky clean.
Happy Easter everybuddy!
We are not picking on The Villages residents. That Eisenhower Rec Center is gorgeous. And 95 percent or more of the folks are in committed relationships. Part of its snowbirds and part of it is the lifestyle people who engage in it. The code is nationwide not just local. So keep eyes peeled for silly bath sponges flying loose. Or the zany chick at the boutique wearing homemade tiny sponge earrings and a pineapple ring necklace.
Just the silly thread we needed!
So keep it clean McQueen. Squeaky clean.
Happy Easter everybuddy!
Kewpie
Senior Member
My dad passed away 20 years ago, but my parents were definitely not well off. My mother has struggled financially for most of her life, and after being widowed was no different. It took her well over 5 years to even dip her toes into the dating pool, but she started dating ‘T’…eh, roughly 10 years ago. He is 15 years her Junior and *definitely* more well off than her. They got married a year and a half ago, and it’s WILD to gain a stepdad at 40 years old, although he’s been a family staple for years. He’s a wonderful man who takes great care of my mother.
A lot of the things you read are sensationalized and overstated in order to generate income. There are a lot more happy stories out there than cautionary tales, if you care to look for them.
A lot of the things you read are sensationalized and overstated in order to generate income. There are a lot more happy stories out there than cautionary tales, if you care to look for them.