While sorting through a deceased person's possessions, what is the most disturbing thing you found?
My wife had a Great Uncle. He had a hard war (WW2) and when he returned, instead of returning to the family in Illinois, he settled in Tucson, AZ. He estranged himself from his sisters and any other family and they seldom heard from him. They’d get occasional word from mutual friends that he was still alive but there was little engagement with them.
In November of 2001, the day came when the family learned that Jimmy had died. We were contacted by the VA and my in-laws flew to AZ to meet up with my wife and they drove down to Tucson to help sort out Jimmy’s affairs.
He lived, they learned, like a hermit, in a small shack-like house in an old part of town. He had few possessions. One thing that he had in abundance, though, is what surprised everyone.
Jimmy, it seemed, spent most of his time volunteering at the Tucson VA hospital. In fact, according to all of the Service Award certificates, he had spent over one hundred thousand hours (the equivalent of every hour for 11 solid years) volunteering his time working with our war veterans. He had a stack of certificates thanking him for his endless hours donated to the hospital.
To thank him, the VA helped arrange for his burial with full military honors, saying it was the very least they could do for their most dependable volunteer.
Unfortunately, the family had no idea before he died.
The family always believed that he’d lost too much of himself in the war. He spent the rest of his days giving everything he had left to the VA.
He wasn’t lost at all.
Okay, that was the story. I’m so glad that it has touched so many people. Thank you. I simplified the relationship between Jimmy and his family back home because that wasn’t the point of the story. But like all good stories, there are people who choose to miss the point and focus on the negative. This says a lot about you that you should contemplate in front of a mirror.
Estrangement happens for many reasons. Let me assure you that it was NOT a case of his family turning their backs on him. They called. They wrote. Cousins would try to visit when in Arizona. This vision you are imposing on them is totally wrong. At this very moment, I’m estranged from my own brother. I don’t know why. He won’t respond. He’s told others not to call or text. We don’t know why. Unfortunately, it happens. I wish it didn’t.
Others have chosen to make comments about the VA and how they don’t have the power to grant military funerals. For the love of monkeys! Jimmie’s remaining family are all old women who never served in the military and would never know to ask for military honors. The VA made sure they did and made the arrangements. Again…mirror. Stare for a while. Think.
But what I won’t allow is you belittling my family over one of their biggest sorrows. Let’s focus on what this story is about—his quiet devotion to the family Jimmy chose and how much the family learned about him while cleaning up his things.
And Jimmie…thanks for the pipe wrench.
Additional.
I just renewed my subscription on Ancestry. I decided to dig in a little on Jimmie. I found military service records. Forgive me. I’m just an idiot son-in-law.
Jimmie served in the Navy during World War 2. I thought he was in Korea. I found this image:
After coming home, he settled in Tucson, AZ:
He spent the rest of his life there. He was never married.
He was 79.
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Sad, but also heart warming for Jimmy to dedicate his life to others suffering at the VA.
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