…… Finding someone on a cruise?

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This is a weird question, but if someone is on a cruise, and you have no idea what ship or even what cruise line they are on, is there any possibility of finding them for a family emergency? And then scolding them soundly for traveling like that without leaving some kind of contact information with SOMEONE....

My ex's mother just died, he and his wife are on a cruise, and nobody knows how to get ahold of him.

Kathleen
 
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Intestinal Fortitude said:
Do you know were they went?
What stops?
What port of exit and entry?

Start calling Cruise lines
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I have NO idea where they were going this trip. My daughters don't know, either. Just know that they are on a cruise. I figure it's a long shot to find them in time to do anything. I did send text and email messages, but don't know if he's likely to get those before they return home.

And his mother probably didn't know, either. She's been going downhill for quite a while.

Kathleen
 
Meadowlark

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A friend of the family once tried to set me up with this single girl. Before we could meet, she "eloped" with some guy she had met on a cruise ship. The guy she met had just gotten married prior to the cruise and the cruise was the married couples honeymoon! Shotgun divorce was soon filed. And no I never got to meet the girl. In fact I feel like I had dodged a bullet.
 
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bluelady said:
I think the Red Cross used to help find people for emergencies like a family death?
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That's a thought, though, with as little information as we have to go on, it may be a long shot. One of my daughters is trying to get ahold of the ex's wife's daughter, who might possibly know more about where they are than we do.

Kathleen
 
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Send them a text to call someone. Surely they got their cell set up before their trip.
Won't work until they reach a port of call.
Unless the ship has wifi.
Been years since I was in a cruise...
Just guessing.
Eta: I see it is covered in post 6. Reading is fundamental.
 
Macgyver

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Your probably going to need to call each cruise line.
There probably not going to tell you if there on their or not.
If you know what port they left from it might narrow down the cruise line they are on.
But you can probably give them a message to pass along and ask them to respond.
 
bethshaya

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Did you call their cell phones? They still work on cruises and if they were going international, many people buy the additional coverage for the duration of their trip so they can call each other that are on the trip.

Other than that, it really isn't your problem if it is your ex. He has to live with knowing he didn't let anyone know where he was going and something terrible happened. Sounds like he had communication problems in the family to begin with if no one knows where he went. Most communicating families talk about trips, let people know, especially their parents, siblings or children.
 
Sammy55

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Is the ex responsible for making funeral arrangements or did his mother have arrangements made already? Are you trying just to get ahold of him to tell him or you want him to get his hiney home to take care of responsibilities? If he's on a cruise, there probably isn't much he can do except to fly out from the next port, IF there's an airplane and he can get a ticket. Otherwise, the family just might have to go with the mother's pre-made arrangements, if there are any, or make arrangements themselves. If he wants to be at the funeral, they'll just have to delay things until he can get there.

Good luck on finding him! It sounds like he was either not interested in telling the family or just didn't care. But it's his mom, for pete's sake!! Some people just don't have their priorities straight.
 
Griz3752

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You texted & emailled; if he knew his mom was on her way out & went anyway but didn't see fit to leave some contact methodology or trip info, what are you worried about? As you said, his thoughtlessness contributed to his "ex" status so why do you feel compelled to pick up after him? He's somewhere and may or may not ever surface; his call.

You've done more than you needed to already.

Devote your time to a better cause.
 
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bethshaya

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We are on good terms, still talk once in a while.

Kathleen
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I still talk to my Ex at least once a week and we've been divorced for 25 years and I still wouldn't get involved in calling him on a cruise with his new wife. We have children together, and that is the extent of the context of our calls, other than niceties. What goes on in his family, is now he and his new wife's business.
 
okie-carbine

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What are you expecting out of letting him know his mom died? What can he really do about it? They can't turn the ship around and come back. Just let him enjoy his cruise.
 
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Well, my daughter has hit a wall with the cruise line -- their customer service office is closed due to covid! I told her to try the Red Cross.

Kathleen
 
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okie-carbine said:
What are you expecting out of letting him know his mom died? What can he really do about it? They can't turn the ship around and come back. Just let him enjoy his cruise.
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He'd be upset about that. Don't know if he can come back from a stop or not, but he should at least have the option.

And my daughters are the ones working on contacting him now.

Kathleen
 
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coalcracker said:
I’m thinking that if I were the ex, and my former spouse was on a cruise with the new spouse, and they didn’t leave contact information, well, it’s not something I would personally get involved in.

I realize you’re trying to be helpful.

Hope it works out.
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Not just for you, but for all who are wondering -- please do give me credit for knowing the relationship between me and my ex, guys! It's not going to bother him or his wife that I was involved in trying to get ahold of them.

Kathleen
 
Illini Warrior

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if the ship is leaving US waters a passport is required and the State Department has services for these situations >>>> if you are foreign traveling it's not the worst idea to file a loose itinerary with them - the worldwide Covid lockdown had US citizens trapped all over the world - having a pin on the map for yourself is just good survival sense ....
 
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WestGardener said:
I am assuming this is your daughter's grandmother. I can definitely understand the need to get ahold of him.
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Yes, she was the grandmother of my children. The girls wanted their dad, too. Even though they are in their forties.

It was a shock at the time, but now I can laugh -- my oldest daughter called me around eleven am this morning and opened with, "Grandma is dead." And I went, WHAT?!? Because my mother has covid right now, she's almost 86, and I talked to her (chatted on MeWe) yesterday. So I kind of had a heart attack! Daughter apologized for scaring me. I'm sorry the ex's mother died (she had congestive heart failure plus some kind of dementia, and was 87 or 88), but I'm sure glad it wasn't my mother, who is still sick but doing better. She's still in pretty good health overall (and still living in her own home), so I think she'll beat this.

Kathleen
 
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Lesson to be learned, for anyone who hasn't already (I did, a long time ago): if you are going someplace, leave an itinerary and some way to contact you with at least one person, preferably two (in case the emergency involves the first person!). Not physical prepping, but prepping none-the-less.

Kathleen
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Yep. The *one* time I went off for a weekend (pre-cell phone of course) without bothering to tell anyone (I was an adult not living at home) my dad went into the hospital. Very serious, fortunately not fatal. Never did that again!
 
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