PRYR RQST Have to make a decision BY TOMORROW on job relocation (prayer request)(update Post #91)

Krayola

Krayola

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I am requesting prayer for me and my DH today. We are really struggling. He currently works in a very toxic environment (due to a terrible plant mgr that was hired a couple of years ago.) People have been fleeing the place in droves. My DH is the only one left in his whole department. He really wants to get out but has not had much luck finding anything local to us.

He got a job offer about 3 hrs away. We would have to relocate, possibly into the neighboring state. It would be a boost in pay plus the possibility of bonuses, but we would have to move, leave friends & family. Real estate is just crazy right now, housing is a bit more hard to find and more expensive near the new job. I am concerned that we would be stuck in a rental (rentals are very pricy and hard to find) and/or that we would experience the bidding wars I keep hearing about. But this job does pay more and DH is in his early 50's so age discrimination will probably start to be a factor soon, if not already.

If this job were local it would be a no brainer and he would take it but relocating right now is just terrible timing with the housing market being the way it is and also covid has just exploded again in our area and in my opinion, seems to have ramped up even worse that the past several waves. If this were a normal housing market and covid had not happened, I don't think there would be nearly as much angst.

We've prayed and prayed over this decision. We have also been praying for a very long time that God would open a door for my DH to leave his current job. My DH is feeling physically ill from the stress of trying to make this decision. He needs to give them an answer by tomorrow.

Neither of us feel like we are getting any direction from God on what His will is for us in this situation.

We are requesting prayer that God will guide us and make it very clear to us today which path to follow.

Thank you!
 
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Freeholder

Freeholder

This too shall pass.
Prayers, and a suggestion. Get an RV and live in that for a while, until you are sure the move is the right location for you. I think house prices are going to come down, though it may take a year or two. Living in an RV should be doable for that long -- lots of people full-time in theirs for years (my brother and sis-in-law have lived in their motorhome for probably ten years now). Check on RV park rents in your destination area, but it should be less than an apartment, and if you need to move again, you can take it with you.

Kathleen
 
kyrsyan

kyrsyan

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Have him find an apartment or friend to live with and get familiar with the area. He can come home on weekends. Then he has time to look around and make determinations. Or you can visit on the weekend to check out places.
His mental health is important.
 
Dennis Olson

Dennis Olson

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Krayola said:
He got a job offer about 3 hrs away. We would have to relocate, possibly into the neighboring state. It would be a boost in pay plus the possibility of bonuses, but we would have to move, leave friends & family. Real estate is just crazy right now, housing is a bit more hard to find and more expensive near the new job. I am concerned that we would be stuck in a rental (rentals are very pricy and hard to find) and/or that we would experience the bidding wars I keep hearing about. But this job does pay more and DH is in his early 50's so age discrimination will probably start to be a factor soon, if not already.
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Evidently neither you nor he have ever traveled as part of a job. As someone who worked as a contractor nationwide in the 90’s, I’m going to solve your immediate problem. Here’s what you do:

He leaves for the job site every Sunday evening. He stays at a motel Sunday through Thursday nights, then drives home on the weekend. This method will give you all the breathing room you need to relocate at a leisurely pace.

And only being 3 hours from friends and family? That’s nothing. You know what has to be done. Suck it up and make it happen.

You’re welcome. :D
 
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Dozdoats

On TB every waking moment
Everything is temporary, until it isn't.

Hubs could get a tiny apartment/rooming house room/etc at the new job site for the week and come home for weekends if need be, till things sort out for you both.

Don't let go with both hands at the same time ...
 
jward

jward

passin' thru
I'm happy to pray you two reach the best answer for your situation!
reading your post, I'm struck by your remarks re: how much you've
already prayed that the Lord open a door for your DH to leave his employment.

From the outside looking in, it seems to me that he has answered that prayer, and
now all that is needed is the deep breath and courage to step out on faith and
actualize that answered prayer.
 
packyderms_wife

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
Dennis Olson said:
Evidently neither you nor he have ever traveled as part of a job. As someone who worked as a contractor nationwide in the 90’s, I’m going to solve your immediate problem. Here’s what you do:

He leaves for the job site every Sunday evening. He stays at a motel Sunday through Thursday nights, then drives home on the weekend. This method will give you all the breathing room you need to relocate at a leisurely pace.

And only being 3 hours from friends and family? That’s nothing. You know what has to be done. Suck it up and make it happen.

You’re welcome. :D
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This^^^ Find one of those long stay hotels, IIRC Meemur stayed in one when she was looking for work and a house here in Central Iowa, so she can give you more information. The upside to a long stay hotel/motel is they typically have better rates than a regular hotel and come with at least a mini fridge and a microwave if not a full blown kitchenette.
 
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summerthyme

Administrator
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Millwright said:
Test drive it on a temp basis.

Do a travel trailer in a campground temporarily.

It can be resold and the loss will be less than the cost of moving and then having the job bust.
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This! Of course, it depends a lot on where you live... climate is going to mean this isn't practical later in the year in much of the country.

Honestly, it sounds like God has answered your prayers, but this world is SO crazy, it's harder than ever to step out in belief and act...

Summerthyme
 
Texican

Texican

Live Free & Die Free.... God Freedom Country....
Krayola,

I worked as a contract project manager for a cellular company in Dallas and went to Austin on contract. The increase in pay was excellent. The wife and sons lived in our home north of Dallas and I rented an apartment in Austin. I made the trip home each weekend. It was nearly a four hour drive.

9/11 happened and my contract was canceled and I returned to Dallas to our home and other work.

Dennis and others have made good suggestions about your DH accepting the position and living there during the week and coming home on the weekends. Your DH can live in an RV, extended stay motel or apartment while you and your DH determines that the position and city are acceptable, then sell your home and move.

Texican....
 
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mikeabn

Finally not a lurker!
Krayola said:
I am requesting prayer for me and my DH today. We are really struggling. He currently works in a very toxic environment (due to a terrible plant mgr that was hired a couple of years ago.) People have been fleeing the place in droves. My DH is the only one left in his whole department. He really wants to get out but has not had much luck finding anything local to us.

He got a job offer about 3 hrs away. We would have to relocate, possibly into the neighboring state. It would be a boost in pay plus the possibility of bonuses, but we would have to move, leave friends & family. Real estate is just crazy right now, housing is a bit more hard to find and more expensive near the new job. I am concerned that we would be stuck in a rental (rentals are very pricy and hard to find) and/or that we would experience the bidding wars I keep hearing about. But this job does pay more and DH is in his early 50's so age discrimination will probably start to be a factor soon, if not already.

If this job were local it would be a no brainer and he would take it but relocating right now is just terrible timing with the housing market being the way it is and also covid has just exploded again in our area and in my opinion, seems to have ramped up even worse that the past several waves. If this were a normal housing market and covid had not happened, I don't think there would be nearly as much angst.

We've prayed and prayed over this decision. We have also been praying for a very long time that God would open a door for my DH to leave his current job. My DH is feeling physically ill from the stress of trying to make this decision. He needs to give them an answer by tomorrow.

Neither of us feel like we are getting any direction from God on what His will is for us in this situation.

We are requesting prayer that God will guide us and make it very clear to us today which path to follow.

Thank you!
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Consider having him rent a room there and weekend commute back for a while
 
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FireDance

TB Fanatic
Prayers added.

I agree, get something you can live in temporarily and go from there. It may be a perfect move, and it may not be. I would also be reluctant to sell my main residence at this time. He’s just going to have to go and check out the job (he may hate it)/area and then you can better make a choice.

If you stay where you are would he really have any other job opportunities?
 
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Dozdoats

On TB every waking moment
One of my cousins was a six figure salesman. They had just bought their dream property and built a house. Then the company told him they were moving him to a different territory a half day's drive away from Dream House.

I told him to rent a cheap place in New City and commute back to dream house on weekends, but no, he quit.

Still has not found a commensurate job. Years later.
 
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Nich1

Veteran Member
There are lots of good suggestions above. Nonetheless, the ball is in your court. Don't be anxious...continue trusting and praying.
 
tiredude

tiredude

Veteran Member
Dennis Olson said:
Evidently neither you nor he have ever traveled as part of a job. As someone who worked as a contractor nationwide in the 90’s, I’m going to solve your immediate problem. Here’s what you do:

He leaves for the job site every Sunday evening. He stays at a motel Sunday through Thursday nights, then drives home on the weekend. This method will give you all the breathing room you need to relocate at a leisurely pace.

And only being 3 hours from friends and family? That’s nothing. You know what has to be done. Suck it up and make it happen.

You’re welcome. :D
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Best advice Ive heard........
 
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Thor_axx

Contributing Member
If you can swing it, take vacation from the old place and give the new one a try for a week or two. See of their is a "cheap" hotel or extended stay that you stay at to see if the new job is a good it. If it is, then you'll know what you need to do.
 
Pebbles

Pebbles

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Praying for you. The good Lord did answer your prayer for a new job for DH.. Trust him to take care of housing. I personally like Dennis' idea to travel Sunday night, stay in a hotel Sunday - Thursday nights and home Friday to by time.

A new job is stress enough without adding buying and selling houses and moving.
 
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Squid

Veteran Member
Don’t consider a rental an either or situation.

Nothing wrong with renting during a hot market and giving yourself time to learn the new area and look to buy when the market is much less frenzied.

If I was relocating unless the perfect place was available now I would rent for a year and look to buy 1-2 years down the road in what I would hope would be better buyers market condition.

Also if relocating now and selling depending on market might just get great deal selling at what could be top of the frenzy.
 
thompson

thompson

Certa Bonum Certamen
Consider that the Lord has made plain your way (the other job 3 hours away). Consider also there may be a reason unknown to you (but not to Him) that this position was made available to your husband.

Remember the story about the guy trapped on the roof of his house during a flood, praying for the Lord to rescue him.
 
Meemur

Meemur

Voice on the Prairie / FJB!
packyderms_wife said:
This^^^ Find one of those long stay hotels, IIRC Meemur stayed in one when she was looking for work and a house here in Central Iowa, so she can give you more information. The upside to a long stay hotel/motel is they typically have better rates than a regular hotel and come with at least a mini fridge and a microwave if not a full blown kitchenette.
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I'll be honest: a Motel 6 is much cheaper, but I'm a single woman who had a ton of stuff in her car, including a lawn mower, so a hot sheet place wasn't really an option. I had a nice kitchenette with a microwave, fridge (much bigger than dorm-sized), full-sized kitchen table, and a full-sized desk. This set up was well worth it, because I was also continuing to work online at the time. The Extended Stay has Wifi.

(Oh, and I had work and the house lined up. I just couldn't get into the house until about 2 weeks after mine closed. Long story for a different day!)
 
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