I just don't get it.
I have never been to a memorial service that was held even the same day as a funeral. My sisters was held days after her funeral. It was held at a local park. We had a picnic. And balloons. My Mothers was held two weeks after her death and there was no funeral. It was held at a local pavillion. If we were all supposed to wear black, no one told us. And it's not like we sent out a dress code. There were hundreds at both events, and I don't recall anyone wearing black. Clearly, both we and the guests did not know the rules.
I can't find anything on the internet saying that white is an inappropriate color to wear to a memorial service.
A memorial service, then a funeral, then a get together at a home, all in one day?? I have never heard of such a thing. Not saying it does not happen, but I have never heard of it.
I guess my question is, if there is a proper protocall to the order of things and dress codes for each, why is it kept a secret?? I mean, everyone knows that one wears conservative clothes to a funeral, but how would one know that conservtive clothes are also expected at, what is for all intents and purposes, a celebration?? How would one know this? Who made this rule??
I tell ya, the rules and regulations that one must follow in this country, in order to not be called "low class", or worse, is getting ridiculous. I thought this was a conservative site, and I thought conservatives were about freedom, but now we have rules about what one is supposed to wear to a celebration of someones life? We have rules that a celebration of life is supposed to be a somber event? My loved ones lives were not somber, so why would we have a somber memorial service? We have rules about the COLOR of clothes that one wears? Really??
I just don't get it.