Hate to ask but I lost my Dad today

[Vicki]

I don't like asking for prayers for myself but thought I would post and ask that those that don't mind please say a prayer for my Dad. He hadn't been well in a long time. He was 80 years old. He passed on today alittle after 4pm and unfortunely we didn't have a very good relationship. I probably won't be attending his funeral but I've been letting out the anger, the grief and the regrets all day. I felt it was going to be today. I sensed it right about the time he went. It's a mystery to me why that happens but it did happen. I undersatnd the reason he wasn't there for me was because I was going to become that much stronger and tougher by doing it on my own. I'm ok with that. I even appreciate it. My wish is that he goes to heaven and I wish him to be at peace in his heart.

Thank you all for your support now and everyday.

Vicki

[mzkitty]

Sorry to hear this, Vicki. But may you both rest easy now. Bygones and all that.

(((hugs)))

[momof23goats]

Sorry to hear this, Vicki. But may you both rest easy now. Bygones and all that.

(((hugs)))

I agree mzkitty. completely, may you now have peace.

[msswv123]

Sorry Vicki~ peace be with you through this time. ...blessings T

[Amberglass]

Hi Vicki, I am very sorry for your loss, you can count on my prayers.

It's tough when we aren't close to our fathers.... but like you said, it does make us stronger and tougher. It doesn't make it any easier when we lose them though does it?

[bluemoon]

So sorry for your loss, Vicki. You have my prayers and your Dad.
Bluemoon

[minkykat]

Please don't ever hate to ask for prayer; that's what we are here for, to help one another!
Praying for your peace of mind, heart and spirit.

[Leigh19717]

Prayers are sent to you for healing dear. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Moggy]

Many blessings to you, dear person. My condolences...prayers sent for you both.

[shinerbock]

DW & I are praying for your family. You are a credit to this forum. Lean on the Lord for the comfort you need and deserve. He is faithful to deliver us from every sadness.

sb

[Maryh]

I am sorry to hear of your father's death. I will pray for him and you and your sons.
I am praying for peace in your heart no matter what you decide to do. We are all children of God and He loves each and every one of us.

[D_el]

(((Hugs))) Vicki. I'm so sorry for your loss as it stood at his time of passing. Go to his funeral and forgive him all he was errant on and bless him for the strength he forced you to show.
Remember, those who do not forgive are the ultimate losers and you have never impressed me as a loser. Be joyous in what you dad did give you and forgive his lapses.
God bless and keep you dear lady.

[Hansa44]

Vickie, you know I would never tell you what you should or shouldn't do. But I was taught that forgiveness is the best medicine and healer there is. And not just for the other guy. Important to include all sides of the story.


By the way....is that a picture of you in your avatar? Lookin' pretty good for an 80 yr old broad, huh. I bet everyone here will be surprised.

[bev]

I've just got to add, Vicki...

You only had ONE BOX OF TISSUES? What kind of a prepper are you?

((HUGS))

[dstraito]

No one minds a prayer for anyone that needs it. Prayer sent.

I lost my dad in 1995 and I still think of him everyday. Remember the good times.

[BigMikeM16]

Prayers said

[rummer]

Prayers said and you are in my thoughts Vicki.

[Wise Owl]

I will pray for him and for you to release the anger at your father.

I was angry at my father for a long time. I gave it up to God and became even closer to him now. He is going to be 89 this summer. Still going strong but I know God will call him home sooner or later. But I am so glad I gave up the anger I had for something he did a very long time ago. He's my Dad and I love him.

[EYW]

I am sorry for your loss, Vicki. You have my condolences. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

[Vicki]

I will pray for him and for you to release the anger at your father.

I was angry at my father for a long time. I gave it up to God and became even closer to him now. He is going to be 89 this summer. Still going strong but I know God will call him home sooner or later. But I am so glad I gave up the anger I had for something he did a very long time ago. He's my Dad and I love him.

Wise Owl, you are blessed and it's awesome your Father is still going strong. God Bless him! I wish it was as simple as that but what my Dad did to me, to my kids, to my brothers was not a one time occurrance. It was throughout our lives. It was an ongoing thing that ripped my family apart. My youngest brother wouldn't speak or have anything to do with my dad for over 20 years. It was close to that for my other brother as well. My brothers turned against me for many years because I kept saying he's still our Father and I love him no matter what and I tried and tried and tried. It was me who finally got my brother and Dad to speak once again and then my Dad turned on me again. it went on and on. The last time I finally gave up and that was many years ago now. I have felt peace ever since. I had forgiven him or so I thought until today. That's when the anger surfaced because time was up. He never apologized or well.. it's water over the damn now. It doesn't matter anymore. Now we can all heal. All of us. My kids never spent a day with their Grandfather. They wanted to. He didn't. It's very heartbreaking. It's hard to love someone who doesn't love themself.

Thanks for your prayers, it means alot.

[Buckster]

Vicki.

Very sorry to hear of your loss.

Praying for you and your family. For healing and forgiveness.

[Fly Girl]

I am so very sorry. My prayers are with you.

[TheDoberman]

So sad for you. Praying you will find peace in this time.

[chickenrancher]

I'm so sorry Vicki. Even if the relationship was strained you still need to deal with the grief and what its. Praying for your whole family.

[blueridge]

Silent and unwritten prayers to & for all concerned

[Fisher]

Prayers said

[Straycat]

[energy_wave]

Vicki, sorry to hear about your dad and all you're going through right now. I lost mine when I was 12. It's effected me my whole life. I know you lost yours at an even younger age. You've got a story to tell. I already know it, but maybe you might be relieved getting it off your chest and out in the open. Let others know just what you and your family went through all these years. Maybe it's time. A cycle has just ended. You know what I mean? Clear the air and get a fresh start.

[smokin]

Sorry to hear of your loss. You and your family will be in my thoughts today. May time ease the pain. Smokin'

[GenErik]

Prayers sent for both of you.

[blueberry]

I am so sorry. Prayers said.

[Michigan Majik]

I'm sorry for your loss Vicki.

[Rastech]

God Bless and Comfort You and Yours Vicki.

[DaisyBarrel]

Praying for you all, Vicki. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[luluwhtbrd]

sounds like your in a good place now....

[Southside]

Hi Vicki,

Prayers to you. Sorry for your loss.

Southside

[gawarriorqueen]

prayers offered ...

[Nitengale]

I am praying for you and your family. God Bless you all.

[Maria]

Praying for all. Praying you somehow find peace within the chaos. HUGS

[the watcher]

Will do Vickie, lost my FIL in January, and my dad 3 weeks ago, and another uncle last week also. The dark rider is afoot, prayers and condolences out to you and you'res.