Hate to ask but I lost my Dad today

[Vicki]

I don't like asking for prayers for myself but thought I would post and ask that those that don't mind please say a prayer for my Dad. He hadn't been well in a long time. He was 80 years old. He passed on today alittle after 4pm and unfortunely we didn't have a very good relationship. I probably won't be attending his funeral but I've been letting out the anger, the grief and the regrets all day. I felt it was going to be today. I sensed it right about the time he went. It's a mystery to me why that happens but it did happen. I undersatnd the reason he wasn't there for me was because I was going to become that much stronger and tougher by doing it on my own. I'm ok with that. I even appreciate it. My wish is that he goes to heaven and I wish him to be at peace in his heart.

Thank you all for your support now and everyday.

Vicki

[mzkitty]

Sorry to hear this, Vicki. But may you both rest easy now. Bygones and all that.

(((hugs)))

[Amberglass]

Hi Vicki, I am very sorry for your loss, you can count on my prayers.

It's tough when we aren't close to our fathers.... but like you said, it does make us stronger and tougher. It doesn't make it any easier when we lose them though does it?

[the watcher]

Will do Vickie, lost my FIL in January, and my dad 3 weeks ago, and another uncle last week also. The dark rider is afoot, prayers and condolences out to you and you'res.

[Dobbin]

I think you should let it all be past and go to his funeral.

You will have regrets. It won't be easy. But it will be the last respect to him as your sire, if not your dad.

And a respect to your family.

And it will be a release for you.

I'll think a little horse prayer for you too. You need it.

Dobbin

[Tennessee gal]

Vicki, I am sorry for your loss and will be praying.

[TXKajun]

Vicki, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. Even with a not-so-good relationship, there is still something there. I'll be praying for you and his soul.

Kajun

[maric]

Aw Vicki, I'm so so sorry. You know if I was back east I'd be over in flash to hug ya but since I'm here I'm sending a huge (((HUG))) and LOTS of prayers.

[annieosage]

Sorry to hear and you are in my prayers

[WVtreehanger]

My condolences Vicki. To every thing there is a season......

[rmomaha]

I lost my own father 30 years ago and am about to lose my Mom also. So I know what you are going through. I will certainly offer up prayers that you be healed and can go on. I'm very sorry for your loss. God will see you through this.

[diamonds]

Prayers said...

[Gercarson]

There will be some strength and comfort given to you if you can muster enough courage to attend his funeral. Please try - I have said a prayer for you and for your dad. God Bless you.

[BoatGuy]

Never be afraid or unwilling to ask for the prayers of others. Of course, you have mine. Take care.

[michaelteever]

Good thoughts and a prayer sent your way, and since I don't know the circumstances, I'm not sure why you won't be attending the funeral.

If possible to attend, it does relieve some of the sorrow, albeit too late to mend the differences you had between you. But it may open the door to a relationship with someone still in the family.

Just a thought.

Michael

[Garryowen]

Sure, Vicki. I'm very sorry to hear of your dad's passing. Prayers for your comfort, and God's mercies for your dad.

sadly.

GO

[The Flying Dutchman]

I don't like asking for prayers for myself but thought I would post and ask that those that don't mind please say a prayer for my Dad. He hadn't been well in a long time. He was 80 years old. He passed on today alittle after 4pm and unfortunely we didn't have a very good relationship. I probably won't be attending his funeral but I've been letting out the anger, the grief and the regrets all day. I felt it was going to be today. I sensed it right about the time he went. It's a mystery to me why that happens but it did happen. I undersatnd the reason he wasn't there for me was because I was going to become that much stronger and tougher by doing it on my own. I'm ok with that. I even appreciate it. My wish is that he goes to heaven and I wish him to be at peace in his heart.

Thank you all for your support now and everyday.

Vicki

Lady V; I pray that you will relent and go to your father's funeral. For if you do not, then you will suffer the same regrets I continue to suffer when I decided not to go to my mother's funeral.....11 years ago, and I DO REGRET not going

The Flying Dutchman


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[Vicki]

I so appreciate all of you. I will meditate on going to the funeral and ask God for direction. The only regret I can muster is not releasing my anger issues a long time ago and sadly my sons feel the same. The world is such a screwed up place and many families go through this type of thing but that only brought my kids and I closer. What a lesson huh.

You are the best prayer warriors. Thank you.

[jed turtle]

sometimes you just have to let Jesus carry you through.
prayers said for peace and comfort.

[Amazed]

Sometimes it seems tougher to get through when we do have issues with our parents. I pray that God guides you, comforts you and welcomes your father into His loving arms.

[fastback08]

Knee mail sent

[Vicki]

Lady V; I pray that you will relent and go to your father's funeral. For if you do not, then you will suffer the same regrets I continue to suffer when I decided not to go to my mother's funeral.....11 years ago, and I DO REGRET not going

The Flying Dutchman

I appreciate that TFD. It won't be easy talking my sons into going but I'll do my best. They're going to have to buck up too. Thank you much.

[kilagal]

Vicki, may the Lord wrap his love around you at this time and let you know in your heart what is right for you to do.

[duchess47]

Vicki, he is in heaven now, have no doubt. I'm sorry that you didn't have a great relationship but like you said, it was necessary for you to learn the lessons you did. Praying God comfort you and that He welcomed your father with open arms.

[Vicki]

I like that knee mail, that's cute.

Now you see why I'm a warrior my friends. My spirit has seen many a battle and my heart has been broken so many times it's sealed in stone. I've had three close deaths now so I pray I'm done for a time. It also made me self sufficient beyond reason. Amazing how life teaches. God bless each and everyone of you.

Much love'
Vicki

[Lone Wolf]

Vicki, may the Lord wrap his love around you at this time and let you know in your heart what is right for you to do.

Well said.

Prayers vickie

lw

[FREEBIRD]

((((Vicki))))

Prayers too---I understand about difficult relationships, so asking for God's direction is the best advice there, you can't go wrong in asking.

[ncmissouri]

You are the apple of His eye! Your father is too. You will see him again and all these temporary problems will seem so distant and so minute. This is His (God's) decision and he never makes a mistake. Your father is in glory, a much better place, and you will be reunited in perfect harmony to sing praises to God together. Never forget you are loved.

[Reborn]

(((Vicki)))
Please always ask for prayer whenever you need it. That's one of the most important things we're here for. I'm so sorry that your Dad is gone and that your relationship wasn't as good as it could've been. That's always so sad.

You've mentioned anger issues and letting it all out, dealing with it, etc, and I thank God for that. Most of us honestly have no idea how incredibly important that is. Continue to release all of that to our Father in Heaven Who knows all about it anyway. It will make a huge difference now and later on too.

I'm praying for you!

[rugrats12]

Prayers sent

[Rescuedog]

Vicki I am so sorry. I know that wishing peace and heaven for your dad will go a long way in healing you!

RD

[raven]

My dad died a few years ago. He did not like me - I did not like him. I don't recall that we ever had a conversation.
At the funeral, i was surprised at the number of folks that showed up. Apparently, he was well liked.

I remember one Sunday night when I was 13, in a Southern Baptist Church in Northern California, in the youth choir when the pastor asked for a confession of faith. I closed my eyes and prayed as hard as I could I said if you want me to step out and come down front, then when i open my eyes, my dad will step out and walk down.

Now. you have to understand . . . i knew that there was no way on this planet that my dad would do that - it was a challenge really. Well, I opened my eyes and there was my dad - he was already down front talking to the preacher.
The way i figure it, I don't have to like him for him to be in heaven but i know he is there cause he was baptized in the same dunk tank I was except his had a little pee in it cause i went first.

As far as a funeral, I went. They had a little tape player in the corner playing choir songs. Then my brother came in from cleaning out his truck and he had a CD with him he found in the door pocket. "Buckwheat Zydeco". WTF? Ya gotta understand, my dad was a 80 year old pasty white Tennessee farm boy. What was he doing with Buckwheat Zydeco. Umm . . . so you KNOW that i replaced the church music with Zydeco party music - did i ever get some looks from the relatives.They still talk about that.

So yea, i would recommend you go - besides they might have Dry Ice

yea, I was voted most likely to laugh at a Funeral - but I am still praying for ya.

[timbo]

My Dad and I weren't close either Vicki. But when I lost him (I had lost my Mother a year and a half before his death) so I remember sitting at his funeral thinking that I was now an orphan......even being in my 20s at the time.
I had a lot of anger with Dad, him being an alcoholic and all. But in time I forgave him his weaknesses and in turn I think he forgave my weaknesses, after his death.

Do what your heart tells you to do............you know who lives in your heart.
Tim

[Tom McDowell]

I so appreciate all of you. I will meditate on going to the funeral and ask God for direction. The only regret I can muster is not releasing my anger issues a long time ago and sadly my sons feel the same. The world is such a screwed up place and many families go through this type of thing but that only brought my kids and I closer. What a lesson huh.

You are the best prayer warriors. Thank you.

Amen!

Hang in there!


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[annieb]

Vicki, so sorry for the loss of your father. Seek the Lord as to what you should do and He will let you know. Hugs for you and your sons during this difficult time.

[Scotto]

Prayers for you Vicki that you can find the strength to go.

I'm no stranger to that type of stuff, try and get some closure.

[NoPlugsNM]

Vicki.

Peace be with your Father, may his soul be cleansed and rested, eternal life his domain.

Peace be with you Vicki. Many big HUGS to you my friend. Yes, your life was void of a Father, but RICH in many ways that you have yet to learn. You know how to sort the world out by yourself, a gift. You know how to Love without Love in return. You know how to walk alone. You know . .

My Father did not want a funeral, no services of any kind, when he died he was taken by the undertaker, creamated, and that was that. Whether you go to his funeral or not is def your choice, have it YOUR WAY. Funerals are over-rated anyway. Say your goodbye prayers and move on.

Again, MANY HUGS to you my friend.



NP

[Leggyblond]

Prayers going up for you, Vicki. I think you will do what's in your heart.

[bluemoon]

So sorry for your loss, Vicki. You have my prayers and your Dad.
Bluemoon

[minkykat]

Please don't ever hate to ask for prayer; that's what we are here for, to help one another!
Praying for your peace of mind, heart and spirit.